Need some advice for 2 things
So I recently started going to this new therapist. The first session was with my mom (I'm a minor), and she told him a a bit about me and how I want to be a boy. She says she supports me but I'm having some doubts (or maybe I'm just paranoid tbh), cuz she only used my deadname and referred to me as "she" and "her". And I noticed she never refers to me as a transgender man, only that I want to be a boy, like idk maybe she thinks this isn't the real me, and damn that scares me. And everytime we go out in public she refuses to use my pronouns and actual name in front of my brother (I came out to him and he knew before hand already), because he's "too young to understand" and I'm not sure how to feel about. Should I voice my thoughts to her and ask her to try harder or is that to pushy and selfish bc she always says she is trying?
Okay so this is about my therapist (not a gender therapist btw just a normal one my other doctor suggested), I went to him a second time about a week ago and I felt really down and uncomfortable when he said my deadname and uses she/her but I didn't say anything bc I was a lil scared to bc thus guy is very honest. Next session should I ask him to call me he/him and by my actual name?
P.s (vent) I'm so lost rn in what I should do bc all the professionals & my mom says wait and I really am suffering with this stupid gender stuff, I wish I was comfortable in the body I was born with.