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I haven't figured out how to unmask yet. I'm 49 and just recently found out I'm autistic. Only a year earlier I was diagnosed with ADHD. Ever since I come out as being autistic to my group of Neurodivergent friends, one of them has been super critical of my life choices. Like practically yelling at me saying "Do you have no ambition in your life?". Can't remember exactly what was said but it was enough for me to say WTF out loud in response. One of our friends was like "That probably came out wrong, she probably didn't mean it like that". Then she goes into grilling me about why I don't make my caramel candies anymore.(Don't make them anymore because I recently became allergic to milk and coconut and haven't figured out an alternative yet). She knows this.
Leading up to this altercation, her and her husband were wanting to go and create music and invited the rest of us to do so as well. I'm not into making music(almost disgusted by it because my older brother would force me to witness his music creating and he was mentally and physically abusive my whole life), so of course I was like "I'm good you guys go ahead I'll just hang out here".
A couple of weeks prior she also kept interrupting me and in a deadpan demeanor and voice kept saying"you're over explaining" over and over again. No one else was agreeing or was annoyed with me.
I'm confused by all this because I've been this person my whole life and just recently discovered I was sensitive and many other things because I am autistic. So why is treating me differently now? We've been friends for like 20 years.
This is a board game night they have every week at their house by the way. Very rarely do most of them have the attention span to even play, it's like herding cats. So most of the time they just talk about random stuff instead, it's very frustrating.