My girlfriend (16F) is jealous and upset that I (16F) reconnected with my old group of friends, especially one friend I’ll call Yun (16F). For context, Yun and I were “together” during the pandemic when we were around 10–11 years old. Even then, we never went out or really acted like a couple; we were more like best friends who liked each other. After about two months, my parents found out by logging into my account seeing messages like “lets kiss when we’re 18” and forced me to block her. Less than a year later, we reconnected and stayed just friends. We talked about our past and agreed it was an immature, elementary relationship that didn’t really count. Later, when we moved to different high schools, Yun, our friend group, and I had a big falling out. Around that same time, I met my current girlfriend, Riel. We didn’t get along at first—I was basically the class loner, but eventually she warmed up to me, and we became really close. I found out she had a crush on me, and I confessed that I liked her too. Our relationship was very different from what I had with Yun—we were romantic partners and knew our best, worst, wants and needs. We dated for three months before breaking up out of fear of our parents, but I never stopped loving her. Eventually, we got back together, and we’ve now been together for almost two years. The problem started when I reached out to my old friends again, including Yun. At first, Riel supported me and even helped me reconnect with them. But as Yun and I started talking more (mostly through games) Riel began to feel uncomfortable. She said Yun seems too excited and happy around me, and even if we don’t take our past seriously, she still considers Yun an ex. Riel wants me to cut off contact with Yun, but I know that if I do, it could make things tense with my friend group. I’m worried that this tension might eventually lead to us drifting apart or having another falling out.
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My girlfriend (16F) is jealous and upset that I (16F) reconnected with my old group of friends, especially one friend I’ll call Yun (16F). For context, Yun and I were “together” during the pandemic when we were around 10–11 years old. Even then, we never went out or really acted like a couple; we were more like best friends who liked each other. After about two months, my parents found out by logging into my account seeing messages like “lets kiss when we’re 18” and forced me to block her. Less than a year later, we reconnected and stayed just friends. We talked about our past and agreed it was an immature, elementary relationship that didn’t really count. Later, when we moved to different high schools, Yun, our friend group, and I had a big falling out. Around that same time, I met my current girlfriend, Riel. We didn’t get along at first—I was basically the class loner, but eventually she warmed up to me, and we became really close. I found out she had a crush on me, and I confessed that I liked her too. Our relationship was very different from what I had with Yun—we were romantic partners and knew our best, worst, wants and needs. We dated for three months before breaking up out of fear of our parents, but I never stopped loving her. Eventually, we got back together, and we’ve now been together for almost two years. The problem started when I reached out to my old friends again, including Yun. At first, Riel supported me and even helped me reconnect with them. But as Yun and I started talking more (mostly through games) Riel began to feel uncomfortable. She said Yun seems too excited and happy around me, and even if we don’t take our past seriously, she still considers Yun an ex. Riel wants me to cut off contact with Yun, but I know that if I do, it could make things tense with my friend group. I’m worried that this tension might eventually lead to us drifting apart or having another falling out.