u/Emre_5151

This is the first time I’m sharing my SP journey here.

The details of the backstory don’t really matter. We officially broke up on January 31st. Our last physical contact was on March 16th, and since then we’ve been in complete no contact. We were in a long-distance relationship for three years.

On the drive home after seeing her for the last time, I started watching videos about manifestation, and that was the moment I consciously began working on myself.

Since then, I’ve deleted her number and made a firm decision not to chase, force, or invest my energy into her directly. Instead, I focus on myself.

Whenever thoughts about her become intense, I shift my attention back to my self-concept and affirm:

“I am chosen.” “I am prioritized.” “I am naturally loved and desired.”

That has become the foundation of my journey.

If I see something that reminds me of her, like her car model or another sign, I use it as a reminder to affirm:

“Our communication is open again.” “Everything is resolved.” “We are back together.” “All obstacles are gone.”

Then I move on with my day.

I try not to overanalyze signs or give them too much meaning. I simply see them as a cue to return to my assumptions and continue focusing on myself.

Most of my energy goes into improving my self-worth and self-concept. The rest, I let unfold naturally.

Of course, I still have difficult days. Today is one of those days where doubts come up. But compared to where I started, I’m doing much better. About five days a week, I barely dwell on negative thoughts. On the other two days, especially on weekends, emotions can still surface strongly.

When that happens, I regulate my nervous system through exercise, staying busy, and taking care of myself.

Deep down, this does not feel like the end to me. I genuinely believe we will find our way back to each other.

I’m looking forward to the day when I can come back here and share my success story.

And I’m very grateful to the creators and people in this community who have helped me stay focused and keep believing.

Hey zusammen! Ich bin 33 Jahre alt, männlich und komme aus der Nähe von Köln. Ich quatsche gerne über Gott und die Welt, egal ob tiefgründige Themen, Alltag oder einfach alles, was gerade so beschäftigt.

Ob männlich oder weiblich, spielt für mich keine Rolle. Wenn du Lust auf einen entspannten Austausch hast, schreib mir gerne eine DM. Vielleicht telefonieren wir einfach mal oder treffen uns spontan auf einen Kaffee, wenn du ebenfalls aus der Nähe kommst.

Ich freue mich auf nette Gespräche und neue Kontakte! 😊

Hello everyone, I would like to briefly share my situation and hear your perspective. I am a 33-year-old male from Germany. My girlfriend and I have been separated since January 31st after a three-year long-distance relationship. Shortly before she left, she blocked me everywhere, and when I reached out about three weeks later, she made it clear that she did not want any further contact. It has now been about three months. Around six weeks after the breakup, I completely withdrew and focused on myself. At the same time, I have been working with visualization and trying to stay aligned with the idea of us reconnecting in the future. Recently, however, I have been experiencing something that I find difficult to interpret. Since yesterday in particular, I keep noticing what feel like “signs”: I have seen her car multiple times (it is a rather rare model), I noticed a sweater identical to one I gave her in the first year of our relationship, and even saw someone wearing a jacket that looks exactly like hers. These moments feel very intense and, for a brief time, give me the impression that there is still some kind of connection. At the same time, there has been no real-world movement. I checked once out of curiosity whether I had been unblocked, but nothing has changed. I also know that she had already started dating again a few weeks after the breakup. What adds to my confusion is that, internally, I feel very certain that something will eventually come from her side. It is such a strong conviction that I rarely perceive the situation in the “3D world” as truly over. At the same time, I have no idea when or if anything will actually happen. I find myself unsure whether these experiences are meaningful “signs” or simply a result of my own perception and emotional state. It is becoming quite overwhelming at times, especially given the distance between us (around 450 km) and the lack of any direct communication. I would truly appreciate any grounded perspectives or advice from those who may have gone through something similar. Thank you for taking the time to read this.