u/Empty-Illustrator481

How do you get better at running? 

I started running because it's a requirement of my org in school. I ran my first 6 km and I couldn’t walk for two days. I had to recover from it. I do calisthenics so I look athletic but I couldn’t run. Honestly, that hurts my ego at first but it does make sense. I’m not training for it, obviously I’m not good at it.

It’s been months and I’ve been running more often. I just finished a 5 km race with a 5:17/km pace. I’m happy but I still want to be faster. I noticed that I get bored while running. My brain wonders while I run. I don’t listen to music because I don’t want to have external motivators but I’m bored while running. I’m not sure if that’s even helping.

Right now, I really don’t have a plan for improving my running. I want to be faster. I want to be sub 25 in 5 km because it looks nice on paper.

Currently, I’m doing some stretches but I really don’t have a warm up plan. I just wing it. I’ve watched some videos about running form. I’m trying to follow it but I notice that my form breaks down while running. I also get self conscious. 

I stop during my runs. I run and walk, run and walk. I want my runs to be continuous. Also, I noticed that I do get out of breath while running. I exhale forcefully while running, like making a sound while I exhale since it helps. I don’t know why it helps. I also noticed that after running, I’m really not that tired and I feel like I could’ve ran more. Not sure if I didn’t push myself while running because I’m tired while running but after that, I’m still good at running.

WHAT I WANT TO ACHIEVE

• Sub 25 in 5km
• Continuous runs 
• Not out of breathe while running
• Proper posture (how should I deal with this? One by one? I really get self conscious)
• Proper landing

 

How do you achieve this? What should you prioritize when you’re trying to improve your runs? 

I’m transitioning from college to working and I’ve finished my internships. I don’t feel like I’m going to have friends at work, the atmosphere is serious and competitive. I’m not sure if it's the companies that I got my internships from but that’s my current thoughts. 

It’s easy for me to socialize during college, I made friends and acquaintances in my classroom, other batches, orgs, and even events. I can’t help but feel that I won’t be able to do the same now that I’ll be working. I’m in the tech industry so I’ll be facing the computer more than I’ll be facing a person. I’m also introverted but I do get loud once I’m comfortable with someone. I don’t mind approaching people as well, but I’d feel like it's superficial if I have to really put in the effort to meet someone. I want something that’s natural like in school.

How do you guys socialize now that you’re working? I do like my alone time but I still want to be around people and meet people just like in college. I’m not really that active online and I prefer to socialize in person. I’m also trying to use my social media less since it feels artificial.

Is there anyone that has the same issue? How do you guys solve it? Are you guys making friends at work? I still think it's super competitive because of my experience. How are you making friends now that you’re working? Do you make friends outside work? How?

I feel like I have to make a plan and go out of my comfort zone or else I’ll be living my life going to work then going home. And I’ll be doing that until I die. That’s just sad and I don’t want that. I want to meet people and befriend people but I don’t know how. I’m used to going to school and going home after activities like orgs and events. I don’t think it's the same in the workplace.

Also, how do you guys maintain friendships? I’m honestly low maintenance, I like meeting my friends in person and that's just once in a blue moon. Or when we go to school, activities, etc. 

I would like to have a light social activity in the morning but I really want to focus on my goals. So I prefer a social activity in the evening after work. Does anyone have a similar setup? Does anyone know how to achieve this?

I’m transitioning from college to working and I’ve finished my internships. I don’t feel like I’m going to have friends at work, the atmosphere is serious and competitive. I’m not sure if it's the companies that I got my internships from but that’s my current thoughts. 

It’s easy for me to socialize during college, I made friends and acquaintances in my classroom, other batches, orgs, and even events. I can’t help but feel that I won’t be able to do the same now that I’ll be working. I’m in the tech industry so I’ll be facing the computer more than I’ll be facing a person. I’m also introverted but I do get loud once I’m comfortable with someone. I don’t mind approaching people as well, but I’d feel like it's superficial if I have to really put in the effort to meet someone. I want something that’s natural like in school.

How do you guys socialize now that you’re working? I do like my alone time but I still want to be around people and meet people just like in college. I’m not really that active online and I prefer to socialize in person. I’m also trying to use my social media less since it feels artificial.

Is there anyone that has the same issue? How do you guys solve it? Are you guys making friends at work? I still think it's super competitive because of my experience. How are you making friends now that you’re working? Do you make friends outside work? How?

I feel like I have to make a plan and go out of my comfort zone or else I’ll be living my life going to work then going home. And I’ll be doing that until I die. That’s just sad and I don’t want that. I want to meet people and befriend people but I don’t know how. I’m used to going to school and going home after activities like orgs and events. I don’t think it's the same in the workplace.

Also, how do you guys maintain friendships? I’m honestly low maintenance, I like meeting my friends in person and that's just once in a blue moon. Or when we go to school, activities, etc. 

I would like to have a light social activity in the morning but I really want to focus on my goals. So I prefer a social activity in the evening after work. Does anyone have a similar setup? Does anyone know how to achieve this?

I know I could be great but I’m wasting myself. I don’t like it. I’m almost graduating and I could’ve had better grades if I gave a bit of effort. There are people out there that study on a daily basis. They’re striving for the top. I want to be like that. I wish I was like that. I’m not even stupid. My grades aren’t even bad. But it could’ve been so much better. I could’ve been amongst the top. I didn’t value that before. Maybe that's why I didn't care about my grades. As long as it's not that low.

It's so annoying. I wish I cared more. I could’ve been so much more. What is 30 minutes of studying anyway? I had 3 hours of TikTok, on a daily basis. What if I’ve spent 30 minutes of that studying? What could’ve been? What if I gave even a bit of effort. Consistent effort. Why was I consistent in scrolling on TikTok? Spending hours on it on a daily basis. If I spent those hours on things that matter, there would’ve been a difference. There must have been a difference. 

I would say that that’s my regret in my college years. I wish I could’ve given even a bit of effort in what I was doing. And I couldn’t change that anymore. You can’t change the past, only learn from it. Moving forward I want to give more effort. If I’m doing something, why not do my best? It doesn’t even sound cheesy to me. It sounds logical. If I’ll be spending 4 years of my life in college being a student, why can’t I make it the best 4 years of my life as a student, for me. It just makes sense. And I want to do this my whole life. I want to be on my best behavior. I don’t even need to be the best in the world. I just have to be the best for myself. Shoot for the stars and you might land on the moon. It's not even guaranteed. But you’ll never stumble on the stars simply by gazing. 

I don’t want this to be another feeling. I want to work on it. I’ll spend time and effort in my remaining school year. It’s good that I’m doing things for myself and following my interests. But I shouldn’t neglect the things that I’m supposed to do. I’m a student and I should be doing what a student does.

It feels heavy right now. I’ve spent years studying, I wish I could’ve spent it better. Anyway, I don’t want to feel this anymore. I’ll give more effort in what I’m doing. If I’m really not interested in the topic, I can still give a small amount of time to it so I won’t have any regrets. I don’t like regretting things. Who is to blame but me? It weakens my sense of self. I don’t like that.