I (24M) feel uncomfortable that my girlfriend (21F) hangs out alone with her male friend (21M) who previously confessed feelings for her
My girlfriend has a male best friend she met about a year ago, before we started dating. I know him, he’s always been nice to me, her family knows him too, and I never really thought anything weird was going on. They talk basically every day and sometimes spend time together because he lives alone in a student residence away from his hometown.
A few days ago she casually told me they spent the afternoon together, were laying in bed watching stuff, and she came home pretty late. At first I honestly didn’t care that much, but later I started thinking about it and it began making me really uncomfortable.
The thing is, I don’t actually think she cheated on me. I genuinely trust her, and realistically if something had happened, I doubt she would’ve casually told me they were laying together in the first place.
But during the conversation she also told me that around 7 months ago this same friend confessed feelings/tried to make a move on her, and she rejected him. That changed my perspective a lot.
I told her that in my opinion, when someone is attracted to you and then says they just want to stay friends, a lot of the time the attraction doesn’t magically disappear. Especially from the other person’s side.
I also told her that my issue isn’t really her, it’s that now every time they hang out alone I’m probably going to feel uncomfortable. I made it clear that I’m not trying to control or forbid her from doing anything, but I also can’t pretend this situation feels normal to me anymore.
Am I being unfair here?