I’ve been married almost 4 year. There’s been beautiful moments and hard moments. after I turned 30, I realized how unhappy I was in my marriage. my husband and I always argued about the way that he speaks to me. says things that are unkind and says he is just being honest. we went to therapy for the first time and it went well. things changed for a while. Recently, there’s something else that stresses me out, he goes to smoke hookah lounge almost everyday of the week. he would be gone for hours. After he helps with our daughter’s night time routine, he leaves and says his going for a drive. Almost every night, I’m home alone.
I have communicated that I don’t want him going to the hookah lounge more than 2 times a week.
We have no intimacy no sex.
i recently told him that our anniversary is coming up, he responded “it’s not like we ever do anything”.
we also had a conversation about marriage and I was telling him that it’s better to have a child in marriage then outside of marriage. He then said, he thinks being a parent creates a stronger bond then marriage. In other words, being a parent is more important then marriage.
I guess those conversation, have provided me with insight in how he views marriage. It makes me feel like I will never be priority and our marriage will never be priority.
we have only went to 1 therapy session and I’ve been asking him for us to continue therapy but I feel like I’m nagging him at this point.
I'm just tired of being married