Hey everyone, transfer student here, approaching my senior year. I’d love to find my community and was wondering if anyone has advice for older undergrad students on how to make friends and feel more connected! thanks!
So I need to get this off my chest because it's been heavy on me lately. I am 27F and my boyfriend is 27M and we have been together for a year.
My boyfriend was cheating on me with a coworker. It started with texting, and then just a few days after my birthday, he took her out for pizza and ice cream.
I only found out because another coworker was decent enough to tell me the truth. When I confronted my boyfriend, he genuinely seemed like he regretted it. He said he wanted to try and that he would show me through his actions, not just words. And honestly? He has been more present. More attentive. I can see the effort.
I think part of why I stayed is because it never got physical. But what really hurt was watching him build intimacy with her. They barely had anything in common, which means he had to go out of his way to get her attention. That effort he chose to put into her is what stings the most.
But then I'll be in the shower, just minding my business, and it all comes rushing back. The lying. The sneaking. The fact that it happened right after my birthday. And it still hurts just as much as day one.
So I'm asking you guys honestly, what would YOU do in my position?