Am I A Jerk
I feel like a jerk because I went on a date with another woman and I ended up rejecting her the next day. I knew beforehand she was bi, but I wanted more information and we had a lot of common interests, so I just went on the date. The date went well, she was very kind, emotionally aware, and interested. However she told me a few things that immediately made me hesitant, she said that she had never had a relationship with a woman before and that her only experience with another woman sounded like a short term thing that didn’t turn into anything. She also said she was on the app and seeing both men and women.
Now I am 36 and my previous relationship was a 10 year one, and dated other women before that, so I would say I am pretty experienced in terms of relationship experience with women.
Another dealbreaker for me is cheating, and I personally don’t want to date anyone who has ever cheated, I HATE cheating and I have issues with it because my dad. She admitted she cheated on one of her ex boyfriends. So to me, cheating + no relationship ever with a woman didnt read as a good combo.
I sent her a text and I went out of my way to make it very tactful and I said that I wasn’t comfortable dating someone who was inexperienced in being in relationships with other women, I feel like a jerk for saying that. Other than that I wished her good luck and told her she was a lovely person. I can’t help but feel like a jerk, but at the same time I felt like giving someone a chance with that kind of history could have me regretting that decision later on. What would you have done?