Wondering if hurt feelings are warranted
So, a little background. My husband and I knew each other as friends in middle/high school.
Reconnected after mutual divorces, and have been together for two years, married for almost one.
I have a 6 year old daughter from my previous marriage, he has a 21 year old daughter, 19 year old son, and a 17 year old daughter. All children live with us. I love our kids. They were very accepting of our relationship and they really are wonderful people. I’m told that I was a much needed mother figure for the older kids.. they do not see their bio mom much.
I do all of the typical “moming” while I mother my 6 year old, though the older kids are pretty independent. Like most every homemaker/ I plan/coordinate, grocery shop, and make all of the weekly dinners for the family.
17 year-old daughter has her boyfriend over 6 to 7 days a week as the norm.
He is apparently a picky eater.. This is a summary of most evenings-I’m in the kitchen slicing, dicing preparing, cooking… 17 year-old stepdaughter ( whom I love. I know she’s in an awkward position) will come down and suss the meal out once the smells are airborne… She will then go upstairs and report what the meal is to her boyfriend where we are either graced by their presence if it is satisfactory to him, or she will either make him a completely separate dinner while I’m still in the kitchen cooking, or cleaning up/packing my 6 year old’s lunch for the next day, etc, or they will leave to go out and get their own food.
Is there a world where it’s acceptable to have hurt feelings about this? I’m a grown woman and I’m annoyed that this affects me, but it does.