I feel bad because the topic came up and I told my parents I only want my husband in the delivery room when I’m giving birth (this is their first grandchild). I saw the shock in their eyes and the disappointment on my mom’s eyes (I knew she would assume she would be there), they didn’t say anything back but I could feel the disappointment in the air and felt terrible because I could see my mom broken hearted but kept quiet (I’m guessing she just needs time to digest my decision and didn’t want to push me).
She’s very caring and I know she would be on top of things however she doesn’t speak English and I don’t want to be worried about translating for her, also I know having her there might make my husband more nervous as he would feel more useless and she would be taking over his role of taking care of me. She’s told me that she’s planning to take 15 days off work to support me during postpartum which I know I’m lucky about. I’m just so aware that my family will want to visit us every day to see the baby and that I won’t have the house for myself which makes me a bit anxious, I want the birth to be at least the most private and intimate thing and want my husband to be the only one I share this with. My family is South American and are VERY family oriented (sometimes too much) but I get overwhelmed easily.. I’m very lucky my husband is English and our mentalities are similar so he always supports and respects my decisions.