u/Emotional-Evening816

trying out grinder again to meet guys near my age, since my dying cruising spot only has older men (nothing wrong just not my preference), i am fair skinned, but chubby at 69kg standing at 5’6, i have acne prone skin. so you will understand when i tell you i entered grinder, i expected guys i wanted to do sides with (mostly just do sides) will block me, so i am not that naive.

so i dont get it, if you do not like me, and you respond to my messages, and ask for my album, and you view it, why not just block me. whats with keeping me in suspended motion on waiting whats gonna happen, i just redownloaded, and i got lucky here and there naman.

pero frick nakakainis lang talaga yung mga bigla nalang tinigil yung usapan, i respect you, but i also need confirmation, either block me or say pass, i can live with and, and to be honest with how frequent it is na, i got used to it na, ah, walang reply, fine, auto-block.

sucks to suck talaga sometimes for these disrespectful people sa grinder, wala lang, rant lang my god

idk the appropriate flair pero

i became friends with a fellow gay guy, okay naman talks namin until we reached the point of talking about experience (were both bot), we were talking about guys we met and all, until the point he mentioned he loved “bagets” and “straights”.

asked for clarification, sabi nya gusto daw nya yung mga bagets pa talaga pero mukhang mature, then fair game din daw straights lalo na pag napapabliko, or mas masarap pag may girlfriend tapos kinakarat daw sya, he loves hearing them say na mas masarap sya sa gf nila, and sa bagets naman, he wants them to state na masarap daw may chups bading kesna girl.

i know i can be loose with my morals too, but this just seems like a genuine desire to be kore than women, ewan ko baka ako lang, he also told me pag may type daw sya di nya titigilian, either i block sya or mabali, now these cheating straight men is another topic, but going after bagets is still wild.

eitherway, baka its normal and i am just not oriented with that life, pero not my thing, i feel like ma kakarma ako if i do that, not that i want to, pero its wild parin to me how we always want people to respect our stand, na wag tayo ipilit na baka kaya pa natin maging straight, pero we absolutely will go after their straighthood like its just an obstacle.

qal, ntkot lang ako 😅

UPDATE:

Talked to my friend how i dont agree with what hes doing, and as expected i was thrown with “hindi ka lang kasi marunong kumuha ng iyo” so knowing that its not going anywhere, ive decoded im not gonna talk to him anymore na, thank you for the introspective comments