u/Emotional-Coffee-427

For the record we both identify as women and are also both queer so this problem isn’t one of them. We have been friends for a long time now and I used to have a big crush on her. When I finally decided to tell her she told me about a girl she liked. Although nothing happened with them and she is kinda over it now I decided it’s better for the friendship to tell her nothing about my feelings. I also felt like we wouldn’t even work as a couple. I kinda felt like I was fine and my crush was gone but in the last weeks I think it kinda came back. I am not sure if there was ever more between us. We are really close and we talk about everything and we are there for each other but I am not sure if it’s just a good friendship. We do compliment each other but it seems like only on a friendship basis. She has been there for me on many occasions and for a while I felt like there was some more. We also talk about relationship topics a lot and when I was away we used to call each other for hours. We are both really awkward with this stuff so maybe that’s that. I know I might regret it later to not tell her I also don’t expect anything it would be more for my own sanity. But maybe it will ruin the friendship?