I(27F) and my boyfriend(27M) have been together for 7 years now. It’s definitely had its ups and downs but the biggest challenge has been getting him to tap into his emotions and vulnerability. This causes different problems in the relationship but right now my biggest is how he apologizes. If he upsets me in any way and I tell him how he upsets me, he just responds with “you’re right, I’m sorry I should’ve _”
Which on paper sounds like a great apology. The problem is when he says what he “should’ve” done he just repeats exactly what I say I wish he would’ve done. For example if I tell him “I’m upset because you make decisions for us without talking to me first, it makes me feel unimportant and like I have to do everything you want to do” his response would be “You’re right, I’m sorry I should’ve talked to you first” and that’s it. That’s all he does to make it better.
Am I going crazy? I feel slightly ungrateful because he IS apologizing but at the end of the day, my feelings still don’t feel like they’re important. Where do I go from here? How do we move on from this?