I (40F), dating a guy (40M), for 1.9 years. Due to his work in mine. we don’t see each other a lot. Maybe 1 day a week. I have been repeating this issue again and again. Firstly, I need some accompany. Secondly, I plan things. I want to be with someone who can live together looking after each other spending time together I made very clear that I’m not able to be in a relationship like that. He mentioned he would change his job. Last night I told him my previous boss’s brother is having business trip here in next Monday to Wednesday. I may catch up with him. He asked me why? I said because I know him and when I had business trip in Germany, my previous boss’s brother asked him (his brother) to show me the city in half day. I said you could join us if you have time. But you don’t have time. He didn’t say anything. Today, he sent me a message:
“I need to let you know that If you meet with men when I am not there its going to leave doubt in the back of my mind and I know how that will hold me back in us progressing into serious formal relations. I tried to have this conversation with you but you kept avoiding it. I am altering my career and property porfolio in consideration of you and us for our future together. If you do not give careful consideration back then it will be another breach of loyalty. Have a clear think about what you want to do and how you will proceed. “
I really wonder why am I still in this relationship