I know the answer.. reassurance?
My (27f) boyfriend (32m) broke up today, we've been doing long distance for roughly eight months and dating for three years. I love him but I'm choosing my family.
Just in retrospect I've been unemployed since I got together with him, so about four years now. I FINALLY got two, and decided to go with the one closer and because it's a liquor store he's said he can't trust me. It's a party environment, and basically he can't trust that I wouldn't be talked into partying or flirting with, and that I wouldn't tell him. Basically told him if he was that insecure in our relationship why'd he do long distance with me in the first place, but he's told me he's in love with me and truly wants me, but isn't in the right place. He just lost his father which was another factor, it wasn't why we did long distance but he was with his father in his last days and it hit him hard.
That's made this a lot more difficult too, I feel horrible breaking up with him while he's grieving the death of his father. It happened a few months ago, but of course it's still fresh for him. We had decided to take the Ross and Rachel famous "break" where we'd be broken up and not worry about eachother, but still save ourselves for each other, if that makes sense. Focus on finding work and taking care of my grandma, and he'd focus on his job and his health. I just think it'd be healthier for both of us to just walk away and work on ourselves, he was so dead set on bringing me across the entire United States to be with him, which is terrifying for me. His family also sounds like a nightmare to deal with, so I don't know how well I'd even fit over there. Basically, the last we talked he started to get upset and told me I did this on purpose, then hung up on me.
I just feel so horrible and split, I feel like a horrible human being. 😭😢 Did I truly did such a horrible thing?