Why does my husband's narcissistic family always convince him that every word that comes out of his mouth is negative?
My husband and I are low to no contact with his narc family. They've been harassing us for years, almost caused me a misscariage due to severe stress when they found out I was pregnant and started to harass me. They are just evil all around and very tiring to be around.
PLEASE TELL ME IF ANY OF YOU HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS AND PLEASE GIVE ME STORIES I AM SO CURIOUS!
The other day we kinda had to go over there to his families house since my husband's only good sibling came to visit and everyone was over there, we couldn't visit alone because she had to leave very quickly as soon as she met up with everyone. Well when he started to talk his entire family just told him how negative everything he was saying was and told him to stop talking. When he was told this and got home he just cried and I felt really bad and told him I didn't think what he said was negative. He was just talking about how those waymo cars get in car crashes a lot and thought it was pretty funny on videos of it happening since they are really dumb looking, me and him were laughing along with another sibling who has seen the videos too and we were having a good time.
This is from an outside perspective or my perspective.
Every time my husband speaks about anything he will be reprimanded and told that he's "always negative" by all of his siblings and his parents. His entire life they've done this, so he barely ever talks. When he does talk apparently everything that exits his mouth is negative even tho I never have thought that and neither have personal or close friends ever thought it.
He is convinced everything he says now is negative and is constantly walking on eggshells around anyone he talks to because he's so scared of being reprimanded.
The funniest part is his entire family is negative, all they do is talk shit about each other, lie about each other, talk about their trauma nonstop and when you try to relate or talk about yours will literally put their earbuds in (his dad did this to me when I started to talk about my trauma because this was at the beggening of knowing them and didn't realize they were narccisists yet) they gossip, talk about the end of the world and revelations in the bible, and politics. It's why I had to stop going over there because it got so tiring to be around. Yet my husband who doesn't talk about these topics is the negative one to them.
They're far more negative than he's ever been so it confuses me.
Have any of you also been the "always negative" one? And if so how do you combat it when they do say you're being negative, have you ever stood up for yourself or do you just go low and no contact and ignore it?