Was I wrong to cancel?
Hi!! So I matched with a guy on bumble back in January and have chatted on and off with him (mostly led by him because I hate to chat fi ages without meeting)
I kept suggesting we go on a date and he would dodge the question. A couple of weeks ago i pinned him down for a day on the Sunday (we were meant to go on the thursday) - he didn’t mention anything about it so I assumed it wasn’t going ahead. On the Thursday he texted me saying I’m sorry about tonight I don’t want you to feel not prioritised or something similar. I said don’t worry let me know if you want todo something when you’re back from your trip (he was going on a work trip)
Earlier this week we arranged a date for today. This morning he texted me saying he’s woken up feeling ill, he really didn’t want to reschedule but he didn’t want to get me ill, could he let me know by midday.
I said yes that’s fine but then I thought more about it and it annoyed me because I delayed visiting my parents by a day so I could go on the date, and I thought if I wait until midday and then he cancels I’ve wasted like 3 hours when I could be at my parents by now.
So I sent a message saying on second thoughts, let’s cancel tonight, I’m not really feeling it anymore. Hope you feel better
Now I feel like I was really rude and I should have just waited till midday to see if he’d actually cancel
Was I rude? Or is the second time potential cancel enough to think okay he’s not interested?