u/Electronic_Corner722

Problem/Goal: Pano sya icoconfront, after knowing every kagaguhan? At this point, marami nang nagsumbong sa akin. Naaawa daw sila, di na kaya ng konsensya nila.

Context (Bear with me pls, this is kinda long):

I (M22) have been dating this girl F22 (let's call her F) for the past 2 years and 3 months. We met on FB dating around FEB, 2024, kasi nag match sya sakin, and napansin ko na kaklase ko sya during SHS grade 12, kaya napa chat ako, even though wala naman talagang mapapala sa fb dating, but we somehow talked. Then nanligaw ako, and pansin ko talaga sakanya mabait sya, cheerful, caring, and outgoing, but una palang may something different na sakanya, talagang unique yung ugali nya, may pagka isip bata, which at first I thought was a good thing, since kakaiba sya from other girls and masaya syang kasama. We actually hit it off, since sobrang pretty yung smile nya, and love na love ko yung pagiging masaya nya kasama, and kausap.

We had sex to keep me from leaving her, after nahuli ko na nakikipag meetup sa boy best friend nya na may gusto sakanya, which happened a lot of times. Told her na I don't like that, kahit manliligaw lang ako, I can refuse that kind of treatment. So ang nangyari, parang ako na ang nililigawan niya, and naging okay naman; we had sex almost every day for a year. Yun yung naging assurance ko na ako ang mahal nya eh (oo bobo ako). Then after a year, the sex stopped, hindi na sya interested, parang nawala libog nya, like sobrang madalang until it completely disappeared, and it became just me fingering her until she's satisfied, tapos ako wala di makaraos.

Then some stuff happened, come 2026. She started to go to TESDA for extra income since the 4th year 2nd sem, wala halos sya subjects, so may time sya makapag TESDA, which is good for her with allowance kasi. Dito siya may mga naging friends.

Then after that, she became much more avoidant, sabi nya lagi syang busy, di na nag uupdate talaga ( dati hindi talaga, ngayon mas malala na), so bale goodnight goodmorning nalang kami, yan lang convo namin, and di na kami nakakapag meet kasi lagi syang busy daw. I endured it at first, then came the second week of February, before Valentine's. Eto, yung nagalit na talaga ako kasi di kami nag-uusap. Sabi niya di raw siya available ng Feb 14 since busy siya, kaya ako nagalit. Sabi ko, ako nga na 8 subjects with thesis and pre-board, may time sa kanya, tapos siya na 3 subjects lang. This became a huge argument, at the end we didn't fix things, ang ending lagi syang pa victim, excuses and reasons.

After 2 days, she told me to stop na manligaw sakanya (the night before Valentine's Day, it's on my profile from the sub maynagchat). Within the next week, she spent most of her time with her friends, tapos yung friend nya na guy from TESDA, let's call him R.

Then ayun naghabol ako, for months and months, tried to fix things, and then eventually. We spent a lot of time rin nung nagpa-help siya sa thesis niya (ako ang gumawa ng thesis niya, while gusto niya lang magpa-finger). This May, we decided to stop entirely, sabi ko, since busy sya and di kami magkausap, stop na muna, she agreed naman, sabi nya focus sya sa self nya, dami kasi ganap, etc.

We still talked naman sometimes.

Then last night, an account with low following and followers count (halatang bagong acc) sa TikTok who followed me for quite some time and keeps visiting my profile.

Turns out he is a "concerned citizen", he doesn't want to reveal his identity, but sabi nya sobrang naaawa raw sya sakin, na nakikita nya raw si F, laging may kasamang guy sa SM city and sa beach. Madalas daw niyang makita, clingy at nagsusubuan pa while having lunch. I asked him to describe the looks of the guy to me, and sent a picture of F with all of her friends, he said nasa pic raw, yung si R, hinding hindi raw sya magkakamali na yun yun since he already saw them a lot of times.

Di ako makapaniwala agad since di ko alam identity nya, that's when I dared to ask her friend (friend and kagrupo sa thesis nung nililigawan ko, na laging sinisiraan nya sakin, let's call her K). Also, will be relevant later, another friend of F, and kagrupo sa thesis bale 3 sila, si M. They are all girls, and both si K and M ay may bf.

CONTEXT: Nagka hinala na rin ako, kasi one time, sabi nya nasa TESDA sya, so I went there only to see it closed. I asked K if they are together, she laughed at me and said hindi raw. Nung nalaman ni F na nagtanong ako kay K, sobrang galit nya, sabi nya bakit raw ako dun nagtatanong eh kaaway nya raw yun, which I didn't really know, I thought talaga girls like to talkshit about each other. Talagang nagalit sya, and todo ask siya sa akin kung ano raw ang mga sinabi ni K.

So back to the main topic, I asked K if anong meron kay F and kay R (yung guy from TESDA). That's when she laughed, and said, may something daw talaga. Kasi since makilala ni F si R, tinatanggi na raw ako ni F. And after nung away namin around Feb, mas naging close sila, and clingy si F kay R (mas clingy dun kaysa sa akin).

That's when everything made sense.

K said F and R became closer nung starting from March, lagi raw sumasama kay R, ang palusot lagi ay thesis, pero nagdedate, SM city, sa beach, etc.

Then came last april, sabi ni K, hilig daw mag overnight nilang magkaka grupo, which is nabanggit sakin ni F, pero ang sabi sa bahay ni M. Pero ang totoo pala is sa bahay ni R. LIKE WTF.

Sabi nya, tuwing overnight raw, laging naka sando lang si F, with no BRA, just padded sando, or tube, or silicon tape lang. Nagpapa-sexy raw masyado; wala naman daw curves.

Also, nabanggit rin ni K, na around yung time na nag OJT ako away from the province, is may kalandian daw si F, na registered crim.

So kaya pala okay lang sakanya na di kami mag usap kahit I'm away, is because may kalandian sya naman.

Madami pang nangyari and nakwento sakin ampagod na mention, but the long story short, mukhang pera si F. One of the reasons rin kung bat ako ineeffortan dati ni F is because future engineer ako, and ako ang investment nya sa future nya, HAHAHA and ginagamit ako for my money kasi after ako naman sobrang effort sakanya, but when 2026 came, I got so broke na, and turns out mapera si R kasi may trabaho, so nililibre sya lagi.

Nadidiri ako sobra, di ko ineexpect na ganto syang babae, she looks so innocent. I never knew, I don't know what happened.

Previous Attempts: Tried messaging her, but she still has no clue that I know everything, so I act like a fool and still di ko pa binibringup

Tomorrow magla lunch kami, and dun ko balak iconfront.

Sobrang galing nya mag lie, and magtago, sobrang galing rin gumawa ng kwento, IDK why pumatol ako sakanya, she seemed really nice at first, Didn't know na haliparot pala sya, wala sakin nakarating (or nagbulagbulagan ako) even though kilala na pala syang ganun.

Anyone here from R5 who received their thesis grant yet? We passed our requirements around mid feb, still hasn't came. Asked someone from the local org about it, told us to wait, and now may stipend came, but still no thesis grant. Badly need help, already spent 15k on thesis (per person), and that thesis grant would definitely help me @_@ tyia