u/ElectronicProgress17 — reddlx

I feel like a jerk but I always hate Mother’s Day. I’m in my mid 30’s, child free by choice and I live a few hours away from my own mother and my mother in law. I have an awkward relationship with my mother. She is not an easy person to get along with. She had a hard time letting go of me and letting me be an adult. And she is always in my business and never leaves me alone. For example she constantly asks how I am or how my days is every single day. I know she loves me but she’s smothering. She always guilt trips me for moving away and not visiting.

I don’t want to go visit her for mother days because: 1. I have a full time job and it’s a very busy time for me work wise right now. 2. I don’t think it’s fair to travel several hours to visit her and not do the same for my mother in law. And I can’t travel to both in one weekend.

I don’t ignore my mom on Mother’s Day. I always send her gifts, flowers, cards and well wishes. But I always feel guilty cuz I know she wants me to be with her.

Am I a jerk? I’m just trying to think of excuses or reasons why I can’t be there this weekend. I feel like it’s all in my head but I hate disappointing people.