Choosing Peace After Years of Abuse
If you were physically and verbally abused by your mother since the age of six over small things — like not getting good grades or not answering a question correctly while she was teaching you after school — it already leaves deep emotional scars. Then, after finishing school, the abuse continues for no real reason: sometimes because she is angry at your father, or because you do not feel like going somewhere with her.
Now, at 24 years old, living in a different country from her, every visit still turns into verbal abuse. The last time I visited, she even physically abused me in front of other people, which was humiliating and heartbreaking. The reason she managed to hit me several times was because I never imagined she would do something like that publicly.
People keep blaming me for not talking to her anymore, but I reached a point where enough is enough. I can forgive her in my heart and still recognize that her behavior is unhealthy and harmful. Maybe she has unresolved mental or emotional issues, because no parent should treat their child this way — and even if there were a reason, physical abuse is never acceptable.
So would I really be the bad person for choosing to cut contact and protect my peace?