AITA for implying my friend can’t cook?
I (22F) was hanging out with a group of friends the other night for a pregame. For context, I’m only good friends with two or three of them, including A (22F) (the friend in question) and moreso just friendly acquaintances with the other three. I get invited out when they all go to a concert or clubbing for major events, but otherwise do not normally get invited to the group’s casual hangouts.
We started playing a drinking game where someone gives a “who’s most likely to…” prompt, and everyone points at someone. The person with the most votes takes a shot.
Someone gave the prompt “who’s most likely to burn down the kitchen?” The votes were pretty scattered, with just enough votes going to my friend A (not including mine) for her to take a shot, and A pointing at me. I asked why she pointed at me for the prompt, since I was surprised I gave off the vibe of an inexperienced cook; I enjoy cooking often, which I talk about when people ask about my hobbies, and I occasionally give out my baked goods to friends, including A. I should also clarify that I kept the tone of my question light and joking.
A replied, “You just give off the vibe that you’d forget the instructions or panic and burn it down.”
I replied with, “Fair enough, and I guess you’d have to actually be in the kitchen to burn it down.”
This may have been a sore subject as A has expressed to me before that she doesn’t enjoy cooking, and frequently opts for easier meals such as salads or frozen meals. I’ve never commented negatively on that before or tried to make her feel less than because of it.
A went quiet after the comment and said, “Alright girly, we get it”, and I realized I might’ve gone too far. She took her shot, and we continued the game. The rest of the night went fine, but since then, A has been giving me the cold shoulder and has left me on delivered for a few days when I asked if she was free to study sometime.
To clarify, I’m not trying to virtue signal that people who cook elaborate meals are superior to those who don’t, and I’m DEFINITELY not trying to imply some kind of sexist view that we should be good cooks because we’re women. I was just curious what contributed to this perception of me, when I thought A especially would know that I was a good cook. It's like someone who plays sports regularly being curious if someone said they seemed like they're not an active person.
AITA? Please let me know if I was prying, out of line, or making a mountain out of a mole hill.