How to let go of anger and pain
My soon to be ex wife and I separated finally, about 21 months after discovery. It was brutal. I knew I was fully done by about the 12 month mark, but logistics and lingering fear for how it would affect our son kept us under the same roof.
I wish I could say I feel better, but I still carry so much anger and disgust. I know I’ll never get her to see or admit how bad all she did is, and I know I’ll never know the full scope of her infidelities. But it’s really the injustice of having to stay silent that gets me. I’ve confided in many close friends and family, but of course I won’t tell our son what caused his family to break up. And I’m biting my tongue and taking the high road in his school community, while highly suspecting that she’s spinning a narrative to certain other moms.
Injustice and bullshit are major triggers for me in all areas of life. So this is torture. Also it doesn’t help things that my beloved father died three days after we separated. He was diagnosed with terminal cancer three weeks after discovery. So the death of my father and the death of my marriage tracked each other closely.
Any advice on how to really move past this, and remain on the high road without going insane and/or publicly blasting her (which could harm my son—her infidelities and deception were prolonged and deeply traumatic in nature)? I don’t want to carry this anymore.