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So many believe a “traditional” relationship, one where the man is the sole provider and the woman is the sole care giver, is the way humans did relationships for millennia. No, they honestly didn’t.

That framework for a relationship is much more resent. It became the dominant framework sometime after the industrial revolution. Reaching its peak I would say in and around the 1950s.

I know it’s not how people traditionally did relationships because, in America for example, most pre-industrialist Americans were farmers and homesteaders. Even most peasant Europeans, pre-American Europe, were farmers and homesteaders.

One person cannot successfully manage a farm or homestead on their own. It requires multiple people, a whole family to work on it. For most people to be farmers and homesteaders, and to think that traditionally a man left all day to go work, while the woman stayed home to manage the house, the whole homestead, all on her own while taking care of children, is ridiculous. It would be damn near impossible to manage such a lifestyle!

No, traditionally, men and women worked together to manage their farm or homestead. Multiple generations of families would live and work together on homesteads. They would have to.

There weren’t large grocery stores back then. There weren’t all these jobs to make a living like there is now.

No, the way most married couples and common people survived and lived their lives back then, was by working together and managing a homestead. Both men and woman, families, and capable children.

So to call the relationship framework of the man is the provider and the woman is the care giver, “Traditional”, is completely inaccurate to say the least. It isn’t traditional by any stretch of the word. Living and working together as a couple and family was actually what has always been traditional.

Whether it’s shorts, videos, or simply a post most of that content that trends and gets promoted is just teaching and persuading people to be selfish and prideful. As someone who comes from a family of people who struggle with having a lot of pride and has seen the consequences for such many times over, being full of pride is not something to strive towards. It will not make you feel better about yourself in the most honest sense, and it will not help you to be a better person.

Pride makes you blind, and when it gets too extreme it even borders on being downright psychosis. I’ve seen men so consumed by pride that they convinced themselves that they are absolutely right, and the reality of the situation, even reality itself is totally wrong. It’s completely delusional!

Pride, as it appears, gets punished. Now, I’m not a bible thumper nor do i see the bible as the grounds for my beliefs, but the dangers of pride are spoken about a lot through it. If there is any lessons one should take from it, the lessons on the dangers of pride is definitely a good one.

Also, telling yourself positive things about yourself like, “I can do anything I put my mind to” doesn’t actually help. Especially, when one’s low self esteem is caused by other underlying unresolved issues. It just masks it and makes it harder to actually heal from such problems.

Plus, those positive affirmation to achieve more self love or confidence is just bullshitting yourself. Strange how if it’s someone else saying positive things over and over to another person it’s called “love bombing” and “manipulative” but when we do it to ourselves it’s somehow called “self help” or “practicing self love”? Naw, it’s the same damn thing. It’s self manipulation and lying to yourself.

I would advise anyone DO NOT allow yourself to be consumed by pride. Do not fall for this pride BS content being disguised as “self love” and confidence advice. Eventually all that “confidence” will come crashing down, then you will be left humiliated and broken picking up the pieces of the rubble…