I’m a 26M, and I was in a relationship for 4 years with my ex (25F). About 5 months ago she broke up with me, and I’m still trying to process everything.
Some days I genuinely feel better and think I’m moving on, but then it hits me again, the thoughts, the rumination, the curiosity about what she’s doing, who she’s with, whether she ever thinks about me. It’s like my mind won’t switch off.
What’s making it harder is that I keep randomly seeing her around, like, driving past in her car, at local bars, just out and about. It feels like every time I start getting some distance, I’m pulled right back in. It’s not even that we interact, but just seeing her is enough to mess with my head for the rest of the day.
The breakup itself didn’t come with a huge blow-up or clear reason I can hold onto. It just felt like she checked out and walked away, and I’ve been left trying to make sense of it ever since. That “discarded” feeling is honestly the hardest part, like something that meant everything to me (and to her as she was telling me) was easy for her to leave behind.
I keep going back and forth between, missing her and wanting her back, wanting some kind of closure and just wanting peace in my own head again
For people who’ve been through something similar:
How did you deal with constant thoughts and overthinking?
How do you stop caring about what they’re doing?
Does seeing them around ever get easier, or did you have to completely remove yourself from those situations?
I’m not looking for generic advice, just real experiences from people who’ve actually been here.
Thanks.