Advice.
I’ve been questioning myself for the past year with the concept of being trans. This is not something I’m very familiar with and I’ve seen posts where others have asked this exact same question but I want to know if this is normal.
For the past year since June of 2025 I’ve been feeling myself gravitating to more feminine things and fashion. I’ve also been enjoying more feminine oriented activities like makeup and so on so fourth. For context I’m 19M with a history of dating both genders. I’ve never really discussed this topic with anyone and I’ve been keeping these feelings toward myself. My family says they would accept me no matter how I turn out but it’s more of a matter of how I view myself.
Growing up I was surrounded by friends who had very differing opinions on the lgbtq community with some being open homophobes and transphobes. I never agreed with those opinions but at the time I was coming into my own with my sexuality and so I kept that hidden from them for a while. 2 years ago I came out to some family about being bisexual and they accepted me. I just don’t know if I should come out as trans (MTF) just yet without knowing if I truly am.
A part of me believes that I am but another says I’m not and it’s just a phase. I know it’s a matter of time and self exploration but it’s been growing for a year and I’ve been feeling more comfortable with identifying as female rather than male.
If anyone can offer advice or give their own stories that would be really appreciated. I don’t know how to truly understand how any of this works but having people share that experience would truly help.