u/ElectricalPea8649

This question came to my mind at night, and now I am discussing it with a friend. Is there such a "standard" movie for everyone that is mandatory to watch, which will make you think about life or reconsider some of your own views? I have rewatched many movies in my life, but I can say that the ones that impressed me the most are "El Hoyo" 2019 and "Interstellar" 2014. The first made me think about the value of food, how people consume resources, and how much waste remains every day. The second made me think about how fleeting life is and how important it is to cherish the present moment, as some significant moments may never happen again. It would be interesting to discuss this topic.

I'm a F29 and recently I went on a date with a M33. We met on a dating app and chatted online for about a week. We got along well, he showed interest and asked me out several times, but either he couldn't make it work or I couldn't. In the end, we agreed to go to a restaurant for dinner. When I arrived, he was already sitting at the table and as it turned out had already ordered his food. While he was waiting for his order, the conversation didn’t flow, and he didn’t even ask if I wanted anything. I was pretty hungry because I knew we were going to have dinner and hadn’t eaten. We started talking, he was eating, and I was still waiting for my food, just sitting there and looking at him. We started discussing various topics like hobbies and interests, but at one point he interrupted me and asked for the check, then added that we should split the bill, saying, “You didn’t think I’d be eating on his dime, right?” To clarify: I have money and could have paid for him, but I’d always thought that the person who asked someone out should pay for dinner. For my part, I would have paid for him too if I’d been the one to ask him out. Now I’m not sure I don't understand something or is this just not how it’s supposed to be?

I’m a woman, I’m 29 years old, and right now I’m having trouble finding my soulmate. My last relationship ended 2.5 years ago and it was pretty painful, so I had to spend almost a year in therapy to start trusting people again. Then I threw myself into work, basically running away from relationships, and was deeply convinced that romance wasn’t for me so I didn’t even let myself think about it. Recently, I’ve had more free time outside of work and started going on dates, but I’ve found that meeting people in person is quite difficult for me. Either our thoughts and fundamental views on life don’t align, or the person, to put it mildly, isn’t looking for anything serious. I’m starting to wonder is there something wrong with me or have priorities and the concept of love changed so much in our world? I really want to be happy, I want to build a harmonious and loving family and have children but right now it seems unreal to me.