u/Elecpit

I've found myself in a weirdly unique situation. I joined the local bdsm scene at 19, quickly became a submissive of a wonderful dominant I'm still in a relationship with. I'm 25 now and I recently came out transmasc. The changes happened gradually but the way people reacted was immediate.

Pretty much what happened is that overnight after cutting my hair and changing my wardrobe the warmth and friendship I used to receive disappeared. The people I used to message everyday stopped responding and there are no welcomes or hellos when I enter a munch. My partner feels this too unfortunately it's not just me.

The version of me the scene met was a lie and I can understand why they don't forgive me. I wasn't honest with them or myself. I'm not hyper femanine and bubbly though I sure as hell tried for almost 6 years to be that person for everyone.

I can't say where I am but are most scenes this exclusionary? I felt nothing but friendship, warmth and connection the past few years but everything has been ripped away from me in a matter of weeks due to my identity changing. Did the connections I make in the past years mean nothing now or am I missing something.

Did I just get super unlucky with my local scene? I hope so. At least I have an amazing partner and polycule because I'd be lost now without them all.