u/ElderberryMoist5256

Estoy confundida sobre una situación con un chico y quiero opiniones sinceras.

Trabajamos en el mismo lugar durante aproximadamente un año y medio, pero nunca hablamos realmente, solo había contacto visual. Un compañero suyo me dijo que este chico hablaba de mí todo el tiempo, decía que yo era guapa y que aparentemente le gustaba mucho, pero que era tímido.

En su último día de trabajo, conseguí su Instagram a través de ese compañero y le escribí. Nos vimos al día siguiente en su casa. Hablamos mucho, nos abrazamos, coqueteamos y trató de besarme. Le dije que no quería tener sexo y lo respetó. Me pidió que me quedara a dormir, quería volver a verme al día siguiente y, en general, parecía interesado.

Luego volvió a casa, a Oxford, porque solo había estado trabajando cerca de mí temporalmente. Después de eso, los mensajes se volvieron mucho más lentos. Seguía enviando reels y hablando un poco, e incluso hablamos de vernos en una cafetería de granja que él sugirió.

Pero sus respuestas eran cada vez más lentas y empecé a sentir que ya no estaba interesado. Le envié un mensaje diciendo básicamente que esto no parecía ir a ningún lado y que quizá deberíamos dejarlo ahí. Al día siguiente me dejó de seguir, pero no respondió. Después le envié “qué grosero” y aun así no contestó.

Todo esto pasó en un período de 5 días, pero lo único que pienso es que, si alguien está realmente interesado en ti, habla contigo de forma constante y no tarda horas en responder.

Lo que me confunde es: si antes le gustaba tanto, ¿por qué se alejó así? ¿Por qué no responder honestamente y terminar las cosas de manera normal? ¿Estaba realmente interesado y luego perdió el interés, o nunca fue algo serio desde el principio?

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u/ElderberryMoist5256 — 15 days ago

I’m confused about a situation with a guy and want honest opinions.

We worked at the same place for about a year and a half but never really spoke, just eye contact. A colleague of his told me that this guy used to talk about me all the time, say I was pretty, and apparently liked me a lot but was shy.

On his last day at work, I got his Instagram through that colleague and messaged him. We met the next day at his place. We talked a lot, hugged, flirted, and he tried to kiss me. I told him I didn’t want sex and he respected that. He asked me to stay over, wanted to meet again the next day, and overall seemed interested.

He then went back home to Oxford because he had only been working near me temporarily. After that, texting became really slow. He was still sending reels and talking a little, and we even discussed meeting at a farm café he suggested.

But his replies were getting slower and I started feeling like he wasn’t interested anymore. I sent a message basically saying that this didn’t seem to be going anywhere and maybe we should just leave it there. The next day he unfollowed me but didn’t reply. I then sent “how rude” and he still didn’t answer.

All this happened in 5 days of periods but all I think is someone is genuinely interested in you , you talk with them consistently not replying after 3 hours.

What confuses me is: if he liked me so much before, why pull away like this? Why not just reply honestly and end it normally? Was he genuinely interested and then lost interest, or was it never serious from the start?

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u/ElderberryMoist5256 — 15 days ago

I’m confused about a situation with a guy and want honest opinions.

We worked at the same place for about a year and a half but never really spoke, just eye contact. A colleague of his told me that this guy used to talk about me all the time, say I was pretty, and apparently liked me a lot but was shy.

On his last day at work, I got his Instagram through that colleague and messaged him. We met the next day at his place. We talked a lot, hugged, flirted, and he tried to kiss me. I told him I didn’t want sex and he respected that. He asked me to stay over, wanted to meet again the next day, and overall seemed interested.

He then went back home to Oxford because he had only been working near me temporarily. After that, texting became really slow. He was still sending reels and talking a little, and we even discussed meeting at a farm café he suggested.

But his replies were getting slower and I started feeling like he wasn’t interested anymore. I sent a message basically saying that this didn’t seem to be going anywhere and maybe we should just leave it there. The next day he unfollowed me but didn’t reply. I then sent “how rude” and he still didn’t answer.

All this happened in 5 days of periods but all I think is someone is genuinely interested in you , you talk with them consistently not replying after 3 hours.

What confuses me is: if he liked me so much before, why pull away like this? Why not just reply honestly and end it normally? Was he genuinely interested and then lost interest, or was it never serious from the start?

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u/ElderberryMoist5256 — 15 days ago