u/Eira_airE

Hey!

I had my first appointment with WGS about 8 months ago. I've been kinda in denial about the experience I had, but the more I think about it, the more I think it was a bit messed up.

When I had the appointment, I was asked if I take any hormones. I did say I've been self-administering testosterone because I'm just not able to put up with the wait anymore.

The doctor was not particularly sympathetic. He was saying stuff like "those short-term injections are poison, you're better off taking nothing" and "I've known a lot of trans people who kill themselves and become violent on those injections". It was a bit upsetting. I understand that I'm taking on a level of risk doing this, but I felt like I was being scolded.

He also made a comment like "you realise you have to stop that when you go through to your LGT, or they'll discharge you". Like, yeah, I wasn't planning on continuing it after that.

Weirdly as well, he was adamant that the wait time I'd been given by my LGT (roughly 2 years) was inaccurate, and that I'd be seen within 6 months. That's obviously not happened and I've had it confirmed by them again that the wait time is currently 2 years. I am kinda at a loss as to why I was told this, and wonder if he was just trying to get me to stop my DIY under the false impression I'd be starting them on the NHS soon.

Wondering if anyone else has had a similar experience, but also I'm a bit unsure if this was actually as bad as I'm starting to think it was. It seemed like the doctor I spoke to was very judgmental over me doing DIY. I don't really care THAT much (in the sense that I'm transitioning for myself, so who cares what people think about it?), but I don't think it's great bedside manner. Don't know if that's me overreacting though.

Some more background. I'm a 24 year old living in the UK (Wales). In April 2025, I started taking testosterone independently because I didn't feel like I could stand waiting any longer on the NHS. For obvious reasons, I won't be going into any detail on how I source this.

I meet a lot of people who don't really know anything about trans people, and have a lot of questions they wish they could ask. I do like talking about my experiences, so figured I may as well.

I'll be active for the next hour or so - questions after that will get answered tomorrow since it's late here.

Hi all,

Me and my spouse were planning to submit a spouse visa very soon. The last hurdle we needed to clear is a letter from the estate agents stating my partner could come live with me.

I've spoken to them about this and they've flat out refused. They've refused to make my spouse an agreed occupier, and they've also refused to allow them to be added to the tenancy unless they have 3 months of UK work history (which they can not obtain without having a visa!)

I could really do with some advice. I've already spoken to Citizen's Advice, who said it's probably lawful and my only option is to talk to my GP or move. I'm looking at new places now, but I can't really afford to move AND pay all the fees towards the Visa in such a short time frame).