Ur tone>>>words. Ppl subconsciously pick on your vibe and assess it as positive or negative accordingly and that's what defines your charisma
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Now this is something I recently faced, i considered myself lowkey good with words, yet ppl do not really get attached w me on emotional or personal levels. I do try to be genuine but somehow, ppl stay at an arm's length from me.
I feel that some of us who are unable to bond well have an invisible wall in front of us, which keeps ppl away, telling this person is not emotionally available even tho you may ve genuinely willing to connect with that person.
Ur personality/vibe/charisma idk how u asses ur vibe, i can only assume from other ppls reaction towards myself.
CHARISMA MEANS PUTTING PPL AROUND YOU AT EASE. Say somebody came up asking u for a favor, they approach u for the first time, everybody in the world gets nervous sometime, if you make the other person feel subconsciously threatened they will likely be repelled by u in future.
Ppl are drawn towards relatability, just like u love it when u find someone ur type, with ur experiences, it's similar for everyone, ppl wanna be understood, feel safe, not threatened, and somehow if ur not able to bond well with others u lack one of these skills. U may be great with words, but what if you're coming off as intimidating or arrogant? Nobody would really be daring to approach u or if they did, they will not be able to connect with you emotionally or deeply like how friends really are!!!