How do you stop feeling stuck after an avoidant breakup?
It’s been over 3 months since my avoidant ex discarded me and I honestly still cry every day. The ending was especially painful because it ended with him threatening to block me, unfollowing me, and acting like I was someone he wanted nothing to do with after everything we shared.
Recently, I replied briefly to a story he posted about a friend who passed away. I genuinely didn’t send it looking for a response or trying to reopen anything. I just still care about him deeply and know he’s experienced a lot of loss. I honestly expected he might ignore it or even block me, but instead he “liked” the message.
What’s hard is that small things like that still affect me because I miss him so much. At the same time, I see him following or interacting with other women while still not refollowing me or making any move toward reconnecting, and it hurts more than I can explain. I know social media isn’t everything, but it’s hard not to feel replaced or erased by someone you loved so deeply.
I think this weekend is hitting especially hard because of Mother’s Day too. A big part of what I’m grieving is not just the relationship, but the future I thought we were building together. I truly believed this was someone I’d eventually have a family with because he’d always talk about wanting that with me, and at my age that loss feels very heavy.
I don’t even know exactly what I’m asking for here. I think I’m just struggling with how someone can seem to care on some level, yet still completely move on and leave you behind emotionally. And I’m struggling with how to stop feeling stuck in the grief.