Vacation with extended family
My wife loves larger group holidays and I don’t. We have one nuclear family trip every year, just us and the kids, which I love, but have to fight hard to get. She regularly tries adding extended family.
My wife and kids have other breaks during the year with her family, where I just stay home. It’s too much stress for me having to deal with the constant performing, compromising and mostly just doing what others want to do. It’s not restricted to in-laws, I’m not into big group vacations with any group, my own family included.
She just doesn’t get me and I don’t get her. Sometimes I think it’s actually a miracle we have made our relationship work for so long. My opting out leaves me feeling so guilty. I guess it’s for letting the kids down, but having to go along with being uncomfortable for a week and have limited time with them trumps the inevitable feelings of guilt. It’s a lose/lose decision.
I just want to know if other introverted people find themselves in the same situation and how do you cope with the guilt? I miss them when they’re gone, but I also enjoy my quiet time. Thanks