u/Effective_Moose_4997

Recently I've been seeing a lot of people mentioning not liking Amanda on the podcasts. I've always liked her and haven't seen anything wrong with her takes or way she converses. But with all the people talking about how it's off putting I'm starting to wonder if I'm also the problem. If people have a problem with the way someone talks and I don't understand, it makes me feel like I'm also like that person and that people might perceive me the same way. I know it's insecure of me, but I don't know how else to explain it. It's like say someone jokes about something, and I laugh, but everyone else find the joke awful, I suddenly feel like that means I must be an awful person as well. Does anyone ever feel like this? Like people complain Amanda has mean girl energy, but I don't see it, so now I'm wondering if that must mean *I* have mean girl energy. Same with the other criticisms of her that I see. Like her having bad reddits takes. I haven't really ever noticed her having bad takes, which makes me think that maybe I'm also a bad person for being on the wrong side of these things.

Edit: This getting downvoted is kind of reaffirming this feeling lol.

Just a bit of a rant here. I have 1 single parent who will never be able to retire in their life. They are 55 and do not own a home. They are only able to rent a house under 1k and have no savings. They live paycheck to paycheck and are deeply in debt from college loans. They can only work 20 hours a week due to chronic pain, which on 15 an hour (the going rate where I'm at for office work) means they'll never be able to improve or ever save. Thankfully their car is paid off, but that's all they have that they own. No house, no savings, nothing.

It's just sad knowing they're going to have to work until they're dead.

Edit: Did not expect poor shaming in the poverty finance subreddit.

Hi! I'm currently at a university on the east coast but I'm originally from STL. My family lives away from the area now but is moving back next year. I'm in my 4th year but still have a year and some change to complete due to switching majors late. I'm thinking about switching to Mizzou as it would be close to home and has classes I'd love to take. How is the campus? Are the classes particularly hard (I'm a bio major). Would I be too old to make friends at 23 next fall? How is the college for biology?

Basically what are the pros and cons? And would it be better to just do UMSL?

Currently taking weekly lessons but this summer I'll be with my grandpa who has his own horse. Assuming I could ride 30-40 minutes a good 4-5 days a week. (Got to let horses rest) How much faster will I improve? Biggest thing right now is getting my strength back in the saddle. I'm not focused on anything too complicated. Just getting my foundations right in the W/T/C. Maybe learn how to do some lateral moves would be fun. Get good on my figures.

My doctors keep pestering me about it after each visit and each time I say "yeah I'll schedule that later". Well actually I'm not. I have no intention of letting a stranger see my vagina let alone put things in it. I get yearly blood tests and as far as I'm concerned my white blood cell count is enough preventative screening for me. My periods are normal and I don't have any infections so screw off!

Anyone else feel the same?

Edit: I've had 2 sexual partners. 1 was a virgin. I was last sexually active a couple years ago. I believe I got the HPV vaccine as a kid. I plan to do the self swab tests at home when ready. My primary will give me bc pills when I want them. My periods are normal and without cramping.

Has anyone else gotten the uhhhh gushes when posting? Not during a period but like... 🐌. It was happening to me every time I rose for the trot my past lesson 😭. It threw me off every time and messed my rhythm up.

Just signed up for Prolific. All of my current tasks require video footage and microphone. When reading the disclaimer the terms say that this video can be used for promotions for whatever wherever, worldwide. I am not comfortable with this. How common are non video related tasks? How do I get more of them? Is there any money to be made without selling my face to these companies?

The title. Should I just do rice and beans? I've been doing potatoes but butter is also expensive. I guess I can just get a giant tub of country crock and make it work? I'll only need 1200 calories each day. I also have a pantry to grab free food at work to get some variety every now and then. They mostly have frozen meals like lasagna and macaroni. Planning on getting pinto beans and rice with taco seasoning to hold me over for the month. Some potatoes, maybe oatmeal and peanut butter.

Edit : Here's some prices from the store on my block:

10lbs of potatoes for $5
32oz tomato sauce for $4
1 dozen eggs for 99 cent
20lb rice for $10, not sure if there's cheaper versions this is just from the weekly ad

Don't know about other prices until in store.

Edit 2: Please stop suggesting I hop in strangers cars for a ride to a food pantry! I'm a young woman alone here with no friends or family. I do not feel safe taking rides from strangers.

I am asking for RECIPES or meal plans.

Currently debating whether to return home to STL after college or go someplace relatively nearby like Chicago/Cincinnati. How hard is it to get a decent paying job in the area for a college grad? What about a non college grad? STL does seem less expensive to live in which entices me to move back, but are jobs easy to come by? Is the pay fair?

Before I started my senior year I was already behind on my degree by a semester. This was from not taking a whole bunch of classes some semesters and having to retake others. So what right? That's normal, I'll just finish it out. Then last semester happens and I become so depressed I fail all my classes because I simply stop going to them or turning anything in for about half the semester. Okay, well it's just an extra year right? And I'm getting on an SSRI and things will go better this semester! Felt much better the first two weeks, I was on top of things. Then it happened again. I got too afraid to go to class, afraid of people, too depressed to work and it happened again. I'm going to fail all my classes this semester since I haven't gone to class since February. So now I'm technically still a junior in credits.

So now I've got a lovely whole entire year of Fs. Sure I might be able to get them off as Ws. But even then I doubt I could transfer anywhere with that on my transcript. My school is too expensive after this year they will no longer give me financial aid. And do I really want to be in college for 6 years? I'm done with this. I just want a basic job and to be done. What is a biology degree actually going to do for me anyways? I'd make just as much working my way up as a manager at a retail place as any biology job.

The local university at home is too expensive to justify going to even though it's public. I can't get any scholarship and the Pell doesn't even cover a semester's tuition.

I'm disappointed in myself. Like extremely. I was straight As through high school. I was supposed to do the right thing and go to college, get a degree and a good job. And after 4 years I've just wasted about 15k to do nothing.

Has anyone here gone through a similar things? How did you reconcile with your expectations for yourself?

Edit: And for those wondering what career I want I have no clue. I'm hoping I can just work at PetSmart when I get back and learn to groom dogs. I do in fact plan on living with my parents until my debt is all paid off and I can afford to leave.

Edit 2: I'm am thinking of just trying to find a way to finish out my degree at university my parents might be moving near. They have some virtual options for the time being.

Interested in what coat colors some people might not be a fan of. For me its anything with blue eyes or a bald face.

Hi, I'm getting back into riding after a veryyy long time. I'm learning to post for the first time and it's been super fun. I've had 4 lesson so far. In my 3rd lesson I was focusing on learning how to regulate the trot with my posting. I was in an awful habit of having my heels come in when I'm out of the saddle posting which made the horse move forward. This lesson I was much better about it and my trainer said my ankles were way better, I didn't feel them slide back anywhere near as much as the last lesson. I was able to slow down a fast trot by slowing my posting down. However, I've apparently only learned how to slow the trot down now lol. I wasn't able to get a continuous decent speed trot during the lesson. I would cue for the trot and find the rhythm I liked, but the horse would eventually slow down to a walk or a really slow trot despite trying post quicker and encourage more forward movement. I would use my voice cues but I feel like that's not doing it right. How do you speed up the trot while posting? Do you squeeze your calves on both sides or the knees/thighs? Do you just post light and faster?

Also I'm able to steer much better to the right than the left. I do have scoliosis could this affect that? What can I do at home to maybe get better at that next lesson? I feel I'm not shifting my weight correctly when turning left.

Left before Covid and debating moving back. I lived in the metro previously and would likely move back to the same area. Is the traffic worse these days? Are the city roads any better? St. Louis has kind of been dying for a long time as it's population has decreased for decades at this point. How is the job market for a young adult? Is the crime worse or better? One thing I do like about where I'm currently at is I don't have to keep my car empty when I go somewhere for fear of someone breaking in. I don't exactly miss having to hide any electronics anytime I park in the city somewhere. People are friendly where I live now, whereas in St. Louis you couldn't always just talk to someone. You'd probably get yelled at or get weird looks.

The cost of living seems decent for a city. But idk is St. Louis any more interesting? Outside of Forest Park and the Cardinals it never felt like there was anything to do in town. But then again I couldn't drink when I used to live here lol.

How has it changed since 2017?

Currently the horse I have is coming to me on my grandfather's property later this summer. He has a round pen and lovely pasture and I can visit at any time of day every day, choose his feed, etc. My mother is considering moving away to a larger city ~ 4 hours away. If so, I would have to choose between staying with my grandfather or going with my mother. I'm looking around at boarding stables in the city area and I'm very disappointed. Most stables don't offer pasture board. And while I'm not opposed to stable board, the turnout time is very limited (~7hours a day). Of the stables that do have good pastures and turnout, not very many have a round pen. I teach a lot to my horse in the round pen and deem it necessary.

For example this one barn seemed super nice, but their stall board only turns out 6 days a week. Another barn turns out horses in small individual outdoor stalls. Another barn seemed nice but had reviews of abuse. Another barn doesn't do any pasture turnout only stall runouts. It's infuriating.

Of those that do have pasture board and round pens, they're about 40-50 minutes away. I visit and spend time with my horse every day. A 40-50 min commute is just so hard to do every day. And the hours at these places are limited. I feel I should be able to see my horse any time of day if I please, but capping hours at 8am-7pm just seems so hard to actually fit in?

Idk the horse culture in this city is very different from the city I'm currently at in college on the East coast. Here, there's plenty of stables within 30 minutes that do lovely pasture board + full care without restricting your time.

Idk I feel like what I'm looking for isn't that hard, but these barns just do not respect turnout near me. Has anyone had to go from home board to stable board before? How did you adjust?

Edit: There is 1 barn that has pasture board, 3 arena, a roundpen, access to plenty of trails, and is 20 minutes away from where my mom's looking. My only hope is that there will be an opening for me when the time comes.

Missed my refill for my medication and I've been cold turkey for the past weekish. I expected to get super anxious but I'm literally just the same? I'm getting the brain zaps but they're not too bad just feels like being drunk for a few seconds every now and then. Now I know going cold turkey is no bueno. But it's been a week and I'm fine. Is there any reason to pick my medication back up? I only got the benefits during the first two weeks I was on it. Ever since then they haven't helped despite going up dose multiple times.