u/EffectiveSun8621

I 19F recently started the journey towards being able to have penetrative sex. My partner and I are able to get one finger in so I knew it wasn’t an issue with my hymen being fully intact covering the entrance.

I thought maybe it was vaginismus or just that the opening of my hymen hadn’t been stretched so I’ve started inserting a finger daily and applying gentle pressure all around the inside in hopes of relaxing and opening it up (I’ve ordered dilators to continue this process) but there doesn’t seem to be much stretch or change happening.

I decided to take a look at my hymen using a mirror between my legs to see if I could test the elasticity of it. I looked at many photos of hymens online but I can’t see anything like that inside my vagina! There’s like the start of an entrance and then like a textured fleshy wall? I can’t actually see inside my vagina where my fingers are going… I found one Reddit post online discussing redundant hymens and finally one image that looks like mine. I’m worried this is what I have. Will it require surgery to be able to have sex??

I know people will say see a gyno but unfortunately I’m still on my parents health insurance and we are not close so I’m not about to tell my parents I need to see a doctor because my pussy is to tight LOL I’d like to at least have a solid idea that something beyond what I can work through at home is wrong before I try to navigate that trauma.

TLDR: I can’t see my hymen and I’m worried I have a redundant hymen that will require surgery if I ever want to have sex

I 19F recently started the journey towards being able to have penetrative sex. My partner and I are able to get one finger in so I knew it wasn’t an issue with my hymen being fully intact covering the entrance.

I thought maybe it was vaginismus or just that the opening of my hymen hadn’t been stretched so I’ve started inserting a finger daily and applying gentle pressure all around the inside in hopes of relaxing and opening it up (I’ve ordered dilators to continue this process) but there doesn’t seem to be much stretch or change happening.

I then read about the possibility of the thick hymen that doesn’t stretch and requires surgery so I decided to take a look at my hymen using a mirror between my legs to see if I could test the elasticity of it. I looked at many photos of hymens online but I can’t see anything like that inside my vagina! There’s like the start of an entrance and then like a textured fleshy wall? I can’t actually see inside my vagina where my fingers are going…I’ve tried looking at images online but I can’t find anything that looks like mine. I’m confused and frustrated. Does anyone have any advice or resources that provide real photos of the vaginal opening for me to compare to?

I know people will say see a gyno but unfortunately I’m still on my parents health insurance and we are not close so I’m not about to tell my parents I need to see a doctor because my pussy is to tight LOL I’d like to at least have a solid idea that something beyond what I can work through at home is wrong before I try to navigate that trauma.

TLDR: I can’t see my hymen to check the elasticity

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