Wlw . Both in 30s . she found me on instagram and we talked for two months all day on phone and video call / voice notes as friends before she admitted romantic feelings , we talk CONSTANTLY . I then decided I also felt the same way and I’d like to go for it , we’ve speed run getting to know each other where we’ve talked all day every day , we talk about everything and she offloads on me a lot while I listen and talk her through her issues so we end up really intimate quickly , she tells me she loves me after 3 months , we’re now on around 3 and a half . She has told me she loves me multiple times , desperately wants me to come there to meet .
She decided to move out of her place in america to a 16 hour drive away , when she got there she video called and called as usual and talked me through getting her place and asked me for my opinions on everything . Suddenly on day two she’s not answering back , she leaves me all day and when she does voice note she’s like “ yeah have a nice time 😑” and so I’m panicking because she’s been off and weird . She gaslights me after I cry explaining that something is off and I just need her to tell me why she’s gone quiet and she tells me it’s too much and I’m over thinking , puts the phone down .
I explain I have to unfollow her while she’s leaving me on read and “processing “ me being upset because she’s posting like sexy selfies and things while ignoring me . she freaks out that I’ve done that and calls me and then rejects my follow back saying “ fine I guess you don’t want to work on this then “ There is nothing to work on because nothing has happened
Days pass and she sends me a message saying she’s sorry she’s just going through a lot of feelings related and unrelated to moving and needed time to work through them and that she’s missing me and thinking of me . Then ignores me the next day . Then last night messages again to talk through it more , tells me she wishes I was there and misses me so much and hopes I do come because she desperately craves that . Then in the morning … unfollows me …. Then later in the afternoon sends me a flower emoji and we voice note back and fourth and she’s seemingly fine again .
I don’t know what to make of any of this or what I should do
Tldr : long distance relationship of 3 months goes cold after moving and is sending confusing messages , need to work out what to do next