u/EffectiveCelery0

Lately I've been choosing my dress, had hair and makeup trial done, and looking back on it all, I regret showing my friends the process. When I was choosing my dress, I decided to find one on Vinted. I was specifically looking for a Monsoon dress because I have a small chest and don't fit in most bridal gowns. Even with alterations, the cups are usually too big on most dresses but Monsoon dresses fit me perfectly. I found a few options on Vinted and sent them too my friends. As we know, Vinted photos sometimes aren't the best as well. I had some clear favorites and not favorite dresses but my friends said they didn't like any of them. I bought my favorite anyways and sent them a photo and they replied that it's "not as bad as they imagined". I love the dress because it's simple and we are having a simple church ceremony. But anyways, now I know how my friends feel about the dress.

I did my hair and makeup trial and absolutely loved the hair. The makeup was something I needed to get used to because I typically wear zero makeup. I sent my friends a photo of my trial and wasn't asking for advice. I captioned it as "I got my hair and makeup trial done! :)" But instead of positive or even useful feedback, they simply responded with, "It's alright, I guess. But it doesn't look like you. Something's not right." I didn't ask for advice but also I wish if they wanted to give advice, it could've been something useful like, "maybe less foundation, otherwise looks fab."

I am happy with my overall choices and don't feel like anything is over the top. It is just that in comparison to my no-makeup look, I think anything I wear will look "different" than how I normally look. I just regret not having some positivity from my friends, in general. Has anyone else ever had these kinds of reactions and regrets?

I had an RSVP deadline last week and I followed up with anyone who didn’t respond in time. Most people immediately RSVP-ed after the reminder. But a couple of people have disappeared. One friend had been super enthusiastic about the wedding but has disappeared the last month entirely (we normally text pretty frequently). I have a bit of time before needing to submit my numbers to catering but i also want to invite a few friends who are local (the friends abroad were the first invites to give them more time to plan travel). I gave everyone who missed the rsvp deadline a new final deadline of next week, but i’m worried they won’t respond to that either. Has anyone else suddenly been ghosted when chasing RSVPs? :(

I have a cousin on my dad’s side who is the only family member I haven’t invited yet to my wedding. My sister (who is MOH) had invited this cousin to her wedding about 10 years ago and was livid because the cousin never RSVP-ed and completely ghosted my sister. At the time, I didn’t know any of this.

A couple years after her wedding, I was visiting the town my cousin lives in and I randomly messaged her to meet up, which she did. We talked about my family and I realized my cousin (same age as my sister) was jealous of my sister and our family life since she was a child.

Fast forward five more years and my cousin gets married but only invites one uncle and aunt and no one else from our family.

All of my dad’s side of the family is coming to my wedding and it is the first time in my life that everyone will be together. I am feeling guilty about this invitation to my cousin and I really don’t know what to do! No one has mentioned her and if she is coming and don’t know if anyone cares but I would also feel immense guilt if I didn’t give her the opportunity.

The wedding is happening in the UK and my cousin lives abroad so she might not be able to come anyway.