r/UKweddings

Hey everyone! So I'm kind of doing my own thing for my wedding next year in the UK. As someone who has never even thought about weddings or ceremonies before, what is the whole process like?

I have a lot of the basics like getting the visas and everything down, but for the actual ceremony I have no idea what the "flow" of one is?

My fiancee and I are looking into a venue that has a wedding license, so we would let the local registrar know of our date and set them up to come out... But then what happens? Do you hire a wedding coordinator? Did any other brides walk down an aisle? Are there vow exchanges? Do you just sign a piece of paper? I have read that the registrars do a per-interview before the signing, what is that like?

If anyone out there wants to share their experience or how their day went, I would really love to hear it. I'm heading back to the UK in September to look at venues and I'm sure plenty of those people are willing to help while I'm there with my questions, but I want to kind of have a gist of what goes down so that I can ask the right questions without looking like a total idiot

What are people doing for hen parties? I’m not a big night owl/party person so our whole wedding is very relaxed and low key.

Bridesmaids are asking about what sort of hen party would like but I’m a bit stumped!

I have a few close friends who won’t make the wedding but hopefully will make the hen party and i feel like it should be worth travelling for (they live abroad).

Ideas welcome!

Hello! Not sure if posts like this are allowed so please delete if it goes against the rules.

As the title suggests, I am taking my girlfriend to London in a few months and plan to propose. I have a specific spot in mind based on a TV show we both love and want to do it there but would really love to have a photographer meet there in secret to capture the moment. If anyone is interested or has recommendations for others you know would be interested, I would be forever grateful if you left a comment or shot me a message.

I would also love to go over my plan for the day and hear thoughts from a local/someone who is familiar with the area. I appreciate any feedback! Thank you!

Hiii. Ok maybe im being silly but please can anyone talk this through /explain?

I see videos of couples doing their entrance to the meal and everyone's cheering and there's a great atmosphere, upbeat song etc... but then after that, presumably it goes into either eating or speeches (depending on how they've organised their schedule). So I don't really understand how that works as it sounds a bit jarring vibe-wise to go from everyone sitting to getting hyped for the couple being announced and then everyone just has to sit down again?

Is there a way it flows really well?

I've been to a few weddings but idk if this was so much a thing for those, or maybe I just wasn't paying attention to how it worked.

Please tell me! I feel like I'm missing something obvious! 🫣

Additional details: after not replying to either save the date or hen invite, they announced they were going travelling for a year so I never bothered to send them a full invite and removed them from the guest list as I was told they’d be out of the country. They also ghosted the whole group chat / friend group and haven’t spoken to any of us or replied of our messages since then.

How do I deal with this?

It’s my sisters hen at the weekend and we have some games sorted (what did the groom say, herd mentality, fish bowl) but I also wanted to do a quiz. There will be family there so I don’t want anything rude, but also want it to be a bit of a laugh.

I’ve got a round where I’ve made her face into different AI celebs and everyone has to guess who she’s dressed up as, I’ve got a round on her with funny memories as well as another round on her fiancé eg. what’s his star sign etc.

Does anyone have any round or question ideas? Thank you so much in advance! Appreciate this is last minute!

(Extra info - I don’t really know the guests well so can’t do things like printing off old Facebook statuses or making them into AI men)

We are looking for a small venue (50 guests) for our wedding, ideally on the band of area across the south of England which is between Surrey and Bristol. We've been looking around both those areas, and there are some lovely places, but they are all too big, or small and impersonal.

We'd love something informal and rustic ideally, but would also consider pubs, breweries, tap rooms, sailing clubs, cricket clubs, small rentable venues. We've literally come up blank for anything.

Please help!

Is this a normal thing in UK now? I’m a bridesmaid and it’s starting to cause me anxiety as the costs are building up. I’m also travelling quite far for the wedding which I’m not super comfortable with.

This is going to sound like I’m a terrible person. I promise I’m really happy for my friends, three of whom have just announced pregnancies.

They all got married over the last few years and now it’s my turn. My wedding is next year and it’s abroad (weekend in Spain). I’m already feeling sad at the idea that they won’t come because of their new babies and I know it’s not really something that can be helped and that I had to know that people might not be able to come when I booked a destination wedding. However when I was there for all of their wedding excitement (honestly it’s all the group has talked about as one by one they’ve got married) and I went on abroad hen dos for all of them (which I’m not having), I just feel sad at the idea that they might not feel my wedding is a priority for them anymore, like theirs was for me.

None of this has even happened yet (I haven’t even sent invites out!) but I can’t help but ruminate on the idea they might not come and I won’t have my friends there

I'm not engaged yet but my partner and I are talking about our future and looking to buy a property together. We both earn different amounts and have pre existing property.

I'm just wondering a bit about other people's experiences. Did you get a prenup? How did you approach that conversation with your partner?

I just wanted to know a bit more from anyone who had experience of this situation and what they did, and any advice on how to approach this conversation.

Planning a wedding in 2027. How are people finding their suppliers? Photographers, DJ’s etc?

Is hitched any good?

I’m London based. Thank you.

So I am the bride (26F) getting married next year. My Maid of Honour is a close friend of mine and she got married last year.

So the first thing was she kept commenting and asking what I'm going to do if she gets pregnant/is pregnant for the wedding, I just brushed it off as it's not my business nor does it bother me. However recently she keeps "joking" that she might go into labour at my wedding. I feel like I'm getting a bit irritated by this because I don't really know why she keeps bringing it up. If she is so heavily pregnant that she may go into labour, I would have to swap her role with my other bridesmaid as she shouldn't be standing for long periods of time...

Also, as selfish as it sounds I don't particularly want her to go into labour at my wedding..

The next thing is about makeup, I am paying for her and my bridesmaid to have their hair and makeup done, and she said she wants the exact makeup she had on her wedding day. Am I out of order to request this is toned down a tad? She had full glam for her wedding and I do not want full glam for mine.. but if she is in full bridal glam surely she will stick out like a sore thumb? I don't want her to feel uncomfortable or not beautiful but I'm not sure I'm happy with her having her bridal makeup.

The last thing is that she had a headband for her wedding and offered for me to use it for mine as my something borrowed. I said I would take it to my trial to see if it works with the hairstyle I would like, I'm going to try a couple of different headpieces... and then she asked, if I don't wear it, can she!?

Am I totally in the wrong or is this behaviour not really ok? It's like she's trying to have attention on her, my fiancé doesn't think I'm overreacting and neither does my mother but I'm not sure. I tend to overthink with these things and push it aside and ignore it.

Any advice is welcome 😊

We booked our June 2026 wedding back in 2024, the venue is in partnership with a local hotel which was recommended to us for our guest.

Well, I booked the hotel for my fiancé and I as well as block booking 10 rooms for immediate family for the day before the wedding and day of. This booking was made in December 2024. There’s been about 4/5 emails back and forth since then confirming the rooms had been booked for the days requested.

I just received a call from the hotel to say there has been an error and they have only made the booking for the day of the wedding not the night before and they don’t have any availability.

They are wanting us to move to a different hotel but I don’t think that’s fair as we made the booking 16 months ago. Shouldn’t they be contacting other guests booked after us to notify them of the double booking?

Any advice would be appreciated.

Hi everyone, my partner and I have our notice of marriage appointment coming up in the UK and I just wanted to ask what kind of questions they typically ask, especially for international couples.

We live together and are planning a small civil ceremony. We’re a genuine couple, just a bit nervous about the process and don’t want to be caught off guard.

For those who’ve gone through this:

What questions were you asked?

Were you interviewed separately?

Did anyone get referred for the 70-day Home Office check?

Just trying to know what to expect. Thanks in advance!

My partner and I are just about to send out our save the dates, and I became super tearful over our guest list last night. I only have immediate family and we have a handful of shared friends , whereas my partner has a much larger family and lot of friends from school, university, and work that he wants to invite.

I’m really worried about feeling very self-conscious on the day and not wanting to dance or enjoy myself because I’ll feel like I’m in a room of people who don’t really know me. It’s also really highlighted to me that even people I consider ‘our’ friends only ever really talk to my other half. It’s just made me feel tremendously lonely — I don’t think there’s a single person on our guest list who would just ask me to go for a coffee.

Does anyone have any positive stories to share of very skewed guest lists? Or any advice on how they managed similar feelings?

Hi I was wondering if anyone had done a civil wedding in the morning followed by a short hindu ceremony at a licensed location followed by lunch, any ideas would be extremely appreciated for venues and schedules. Budget for venue is around £2000 around greater London

As title says, Am I delusional for thinking we can plan a wedding in 6 months? we’ve been together 10 years, engaged a year. we looked at some venues, fell in love and have great prices from October. We’re both 33 this year.

We’re looking at 70 day guests and 100 evening with 12 rooms to fill. I was thinking of 6 bridesmaids (Sister, SIL, 4 friends). Im not too precious about a made to fit dress, happy with second hand & altered.

This feels delusional, am I?!

I’m looking for a venue that isn’t a stately home or a barn. We’re based in Edinburgh, but happy to consider Glasgow and more rural too!

We’re also toying with the idea of a 2/3-night style event in Italy, so open to considering a similar set up here.

Any suggestions would be very welcome!

Hi,

I have my notice of marriage appt coming up next week. My partner has a family surname but legally uses his middle name as his surname (we are Sikhs so it's not uncommon). I didn't realise up until today that when I booked my appointment, I put his family name as his surname. I'm an idiot for not checking beforehand. Will this impact my interview at all or is it very much focused on the answers I give there and then?