I’m a [32F]and he’s a [34M] are we best friends or more?
I am a (32F) met my boyfriend 3 years ago on the same night I bumped into my old teenage (34M) friend who I hadn’t seen since we were teenagers, I was out for my birthday he was out on a stag do, I wasn’t supposed to be at that bar but friend really want to go early and he was on his way out when we met,
His friend messaged me that night asking to take me out,
I declined, and my friend call him D started reconnecting again, he was awear that his friend liked me and was messaging me and what felt like he was encouraging me to date his friend. But reccently he had made it clear that he didnt want me to to out with his friend and was joking around with me, because he was being what felt like percistent i took that as my friend was letting me know he wasnt interested in me in that way
The same night i met this guy we had mutual friends and stayed talking, he was being persistent for a around 6 months so I decided to accept his offer on taken me out
Fast forward 3 years me and D stayed intouch in each other lives D has an on off girlfriend little toxic and I am a some what toxic relationship myself.
We confide in each other, my boyfriend doesn’t want me to be friends with D and had told me to act like D doesn’t exist
Very recently D asked me if I’m going to leave my boyfriend and that “im just wasting his time and mine”,
He also told me that he has a soft spot for me and probably always will. And that he doesn’t feel good that i took the joke of me dating his friend the wrong way. And that it’s his fault.
I think about how my life would have been if he was just honest with me in the first place as I liked him, he had a bike accident last year, and was badly hurt he told me that he thought about me alot right after the accident and while he was in recovery
I’m unsure if we’re just really good friends or more? He can be flirty but I find it extremely hard to know or someone his flirting or just being friendly, as my self esteem isn’t very high I find it hard to believe anyone would find me attractive
We have both agreed that it’s crazy how we’re in the same situation with two different people and randomly met that night when we both were not suppose to be there at that time. Whenever I see him he always blows me a kiss goodbye, jokingly but sweet,
I think I’m looking into this to much and that we do just have a really good friendship,