u/EedeeSoPhly

Hi all,

I’ve recently transitioned from Second Line Risk Management into Internal Audit within the banking sector. I’d like to hear from anyone who has made a similar move, especially around how you adapted to the “third line” mindset and way of working.

I’m currently working towards my CIA qualification and would really appreciate advice on the core knowledge, skills, and mindset I should be developing at this stage. I’m finding the adjustment challenging and sometimes struggle to fully get my head around the role and expectations.

My focus area is auditing risk management, and my goal is to build strong confidence and make meaningful impact in this space.

If you’ve been through this transition, I’d love to hear:

•	What helped you adapt?

•	What you wish you had focused on earlier?

•	Any useful resources, learning paths, or practical tips.

Thanks in advance for sharing your experiences and advice.

I think one of the hardest lessons I’ve learned postpartum is that familiarity and trust are not enough to build a peaceful home environment.

I recently tried transitioning my long-time helper into a live-in nanny role after having my baby and preparing to return to a demanding career. On paper, it made sense. She had been with me for years, I trusted her, she had helped with kids before, and I genuinely wanted to give someone familiar an opportunity instead of bringing a complete stranger into my home.
But wow, I underestimated how emotionally and mentally important things like initiative, communication, accountability and attitude are when someone is living in your space and helping raise your child.

The issue was never one massive thing. It was the constant drip:
-reminding an adult to do basic things
-passive aggressive behaviour
-poor communication
-last-minute surprises that inconvenience me
-lack of follow-through
-feeling like I still had to carry the full mental load of the house and baby

I think what broke me was realising that instead of feeling supported, I started feeling emotionally exhausted and tense in my own home.Postpartum is already such a vulnerable season. Add a new baby, a recent move, preparing to return to work, sleep deprivation, trying to hold a marriage together, and then managing another adult emotionally, it becomes too much.
I actually reached a point where I was shaking from frustration after a conversation and realised this arrangement was no longer healthy for anyone involved and she blatantly laughed at me when I was reprimanded her on a serious transgression.
I don’t think she’s a bad person. I genuinely don’t. But I’ve learned that someone can be trustworthy and still not be the right fit for a high-responsibility, live-in caregiving role.
And honestly? I ignored certain traits for too long because I wanted it to work.

Anyway. Back to the drawing board 😂