Am I wanting too much from an FWB?
I had a few FWBs before my long marriage (now ended, ethically). I've had a couple since, and seeking another, but my friends are telling me I want too much from it.
This isn't just about sex for me. I want to hang out with them, do stuff beyond just sex (but still a big sex focus), and, I guess, kind of psuedo-relationship stuff. It reinforces a connection that makes sex even better. A real F to fit the WB. It's like stepping out of the real world for a while, and I love it, and genuinely care for the other person. I then go back to the real world until our next meet up.
My friends say this isn't sustainable, mostly the female ones (the male ones think I'm just weird for wanting more than sex). That it gives off too many relationship vibes even though I'm clear throughout on what I want, and my partners agree, at least in the beginning, but then things get difficult later. I don't know why I want to "pretend" relationship, but when it's working, it feels great.
Am I being unrealistic?