My partner and I, both female, are currently 10 days out from our wedding and her mom is deciding to get surgery 7 days before hand even though we had sent out save the dates last May.
Little back story because I think it matters. We have been together since high school and both of our families are close. We go on vacations together and spend holidays together. I genuinely have a great relationship with her and so does my partner. It's been almost a decade now and while I am excited for the wedding this is probably my breaking point and I'm close to uninviting her.
About 3 years ago my partners youngest sibling(6) was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes and since then her mom has become obsessed with weight and food. To the point where we can no longer eat near her. My partner also has three other siblings, 4, 23, and 27. Within this past year she has decided to under go the process to get a lap band because she wants to be skinny. She constantly is making comments about everyone's weight and how they eat. Even the 4 year old. She calls my partners 23 year old brother fat to his face and tells him he needs to lose weight. He is autistic and has his own struggles that make it so he cannot live alone and still lives with her. She also calls my partners oldest sister(27) fat and gross to her face. She has a cognitive disability that has regressed her mentality to a 5 years old.
The biggest issue right now is that when we first started dating her mom was such an incredible lady and was great to be around and now she will only talk about weight and food. She is perfectly healthy and the doctors did not recommend this. The actually told her that it will not be covered since it is considered cosmetic. She is supposed to walk my partner down the aisle and have a mother/daughter dance with her. Her surgery is scheduled for 8 days before the wedding and she will need to be in the hospital for 3 days as she is a little higher risk due to her age. My partner is devastated. She won't talk to her mom and I have never seen her cry so much before. My heart breaks for her and at this point we just want it to be over with since we have already paid all our vendors.
My favorite part is that my partner asked if she could schedule it for after the wedding and she flat out said no because she doesn't want to wait any longer to be skinny???? Because yes it automatically makes you skinny. She isn't even a big lady. They are super tall and I would consider on the thinner side as well. I am so over her making all these comments about our weight when they don't even cook dinner. They order out fast food every night and sit around all day doing nothing. She could have waited a week or so to get this done but she is so obsessed with being skinny it's made the whole family hate her. Both side.
I worry that come the wedding she is going to make comments about how much we eat or how others eat and she refuses to keep comments to herself. I no longer speak with her as she commented on my weight and eating once but thankfully she hasn't made a comment about my partner yet and I worry she will that day since we have a buffet instead of plated.
I guess more of a rant than drama or both