Any time I ask my husband for help, he will agree to help and then schedule something else for that day. He always says it's an accident, and I honestly believe him, but the lack of consideration for my needs is upsetting.
The most recent example is that I have a certification test coming up that I have to take for my job. When I was scheduling it months ago, I asked him what we should do about childcare for that day, and he said he would take the day off to take care of our daughter while I take the test. So, I scheduled the test assuming he would do what he said.
Now, a month or two later, he signed up for a conference for that day and the next two days. So, not only is he now not available to watch our daughter, he's going to be out of town. He told me about the conference months ago. The guy who runs the conference loves camping, and it's basically an excuse for him to go camping every year. When my husband told me about it originally, we laughed about it. But when he came home saying he would be gone exactly when I needed him (again), it was suddenly a serious conference that he'd been personally invited to (by mass email).
He says that I'm overreacting and that we can "figure it out," but I've been here before and know that means I will have to figure it out. I don't have any good solutions. We don't have a lot of childcare options and all of them are an hour or more away from the test. I really wanted to have a calm morning the morning of the test, but he just signed me up to drive all over tarnation early in the morning because he wants to go camping. He tried to make me feel bad saying it's important for his job, but the test I'm taking is important for my job. AITAH for being upset that my husband scheduled a trip after saying he would watch our daughter that day?