How do I deal with an online friend who said the n word?
So I (22F) have this online friend I met through a game. Let's call him John (18M). John and I met through a game and we clicked and moved our convos over to discord. We were talking one day, and he randomly called me the N word (without the hard
-er) in a sentence, in like a joking way. I asked him if he was black too (he knew I was black from the beginning) because I genuinely didn't know but was also iffy, and he said no, he's Latino. I asked if he's Afro Latino and he confirmed that he's just Latino.
That honestly pmo but I know non black people use the word all the time 🙄 I told him he shouldn't use the word, especially around me. All he said was okay and that he wouldn't use it around me. This emo even more and I told him he knows he shouldn't be using it at all... right? He said isn't the intent all that matters and that where he's from everyone uses it. I said not really and it doesn't mean he should say it too but me trying to tell him to stop won't change anything if he still uses it. He basically agreed and ever since then, I've felt not as close to him as before.
And then today, he was sending me screenshots of a convo with another friend because I pointed out he has weird texting habits, and in the screenshot, his friend was using the n word... who he confirmed was also Hispanic. Idk this whole thing is making me want to ghost him, but I play the game we met on a lot and chances are l'Il ran into him and the game will be awkward. But I don't want to keep being friends with someone like this. He's old enough to know why it's wrong.