AITA for not attending my dad’s retirement party after he secretly gave away my childhood room?
I (25F) moved out for university at 18 and never really moved back home except for holidays. I always thought my childhood bedroom would still be “mine” in some sense, even if I didn’t live there anymore.
Recently, my dad retired early and decided to convert my old room into a home office. He didn’t ask me beforehand, which already stung a bit, but I understood it was his house.
What I didn’t find out until later was that he also gave away most of my old belongings to my cousin’s kids — including things I had specifically asked to be kept safe, like my old sketchbooks, a box of letters from my mum (she passed away when I was 14), and my childhood photo albums.
When I found out, I was really upset and confronted him. He said he “didn’t think I’d care about old junk” and that he was trying to “declutter before retirement.”
A week later, he invited me to his retirement party and said it would mean a lot if I came and gave a speech about him. I told him I wasn’t ready to celebrate him after what happened and I wouldn’t be attending.
Now my extended family is saying I’m being dramatic and selfish and that I should “put it behind me” because it was just stuff and this is a big milestone for him.
AITA for not going?
EDIT: I had a lot of letters from my mother which my dad had promised to keep safe, i live in a small apartmant with not much space for storage and he said that he would keep it safe until i find some place bigger. Me and my father have never had the best relationship, my mother new she was not going to last long and had written those letters for years. After she died he was quick to find new relationships when I needed a father to bond with,this is why i moved out quickly which only got me a very small apartment.