from knowledge i have heard from psychs ive always heard that ppl w/ bpd have a disorganized attachment. im wondering if anyone has ever felt any semblance of secure attachment with some people and anxious with others and/or avoidant with others? or like some relationships just are more important than others so you're not as preoccupied with the less important ones rejecting/abandoning u until ur already having an episode.
for context this is simply a genuine question, i have audhd+ cpstd and bad anxious attachment/abandonment issues but like- not to my mom and esp not my dad, its only ever been close friends, even acquaintances, and especially partners.
idk im just curious since i recently saw someone w/ bpd talk abt not experiencing the abandonment fears with everyone in their life/ most people wouldn't know they had bpd until they became a favorite person.