Hi everyone, I believe my (28f) long-term boyfriend (30m) is a golf addict.
We started our golf journey together in a little less than two years ago and I must admit that I do enjoy the greenery, the leisure and the exercise from walking, but now I'm honestly starting to resent the sport... I still golf occasionally if I'm up for it and my boyfriend is being pushy. We live in a colder climate which means that the outdoor golf season lasts from April - October and in the later season he really started to obsess over golf. He plays two hours on simulator daily and also plays 2-4 rounds of 18 holes a week. Every minute he's not playing golf he's watching golf tutorials and golf videos on the TV or his phone. He is uninterested in talking about anything besides golf.
I feel like this it beginning to take a toll on our relationship as I'm starting to feel resentment towards his golfing. I'm supportive of having hobbies and passions, but I rarly see him anymore (when I get home from work he's more likely out golfing or at the simulator) and I can't really talk to him anymore as he's not up to date on anything besides golf. He's often golfing with friends so his golfing sessions takes 6-8 hours (driving, warm-up, lunch, etc) and usually plans several golfing sessions weeks in advance (e.g. next weekend I was able to plan with him is in June, we are visiting his parents outside the city, he's bringing his golf gear and plans on golfing every day). We usually go for an annual vacation, but this year he's only willing to go to expensive golf resorts (I'm not paying 50% for that when I barely golf) and I put my foot down, so this year we are not going anywhere. When we have plans together and the weather is nice he more often than not pleads to let him go golfing instead. He's an adult who can decide for himself and since he'd rather play golf than e.g. have dinner with me I just flatly tell him he can go play golf instead. It's also starting to get embarrassing as I often go do things by myself on my days off or attend social gatherings by myself and people will ask me where my boyfriend is. At this point I'm actually straight up lying as I'm tired of the looks I'm getting when I say he's out playing golf.
I love this man, but his hobby has gotten out of hand and he doesn't see it himself. He says it's import for him to play as much as possible April - October because he can only play simulator golf the remaining year and it has gotten to the point where he won't see reason if I try to argue that I'm important too. I don't want to argue with him and I'm just hoping he'll eventually see reason. He says that when we'll have kids he will slow down, but it's important for him to get a low handicap first so he can play golf more casually.
Any advice for fixing this situation?