I (21F) have found content out that my bf (22M) is watching
My (21F) boyfriend (22M) recently admitted he’s had a hidden issue with excessive porn/masturbation for years and I honestly don’t know how to process it.
TL;DR: Found out my boyfriend has been watching a lot of niche fetish/fantasy content for years. He also admitted that certain male features can be visually arousing to him, but says he has no interest in men romantically or in real life. He wants to stop watching porn and work on our relationship, but I feel anxious, insecure, and confused about what this all means.
We’ve been together for years and I genuinely believed we had a strong relationship. Recently a lot came out at once and I ended up seeing the type of content he watches. It was mostly very exaggerated fantasy/fetish stuff rather than “normal” porn.
Since then I’ve been overthinking everything and questioning whether this is:
- porn escalation/desensitisation
- curiosity/fantasy that stays online
- or something deeper that he hasn’t fully figured out himself
Edit: I would describe the content as The themes seem to include:
exaggerated female body proportions
b expansion / hypersexualised bodies
preg***** or breeding themes
lactation/milking themes
transformation/fantasy art
cartoon/anime-style fetish content
“bimbo” or hyper-feminisation aesthetics
The difficult part is that outside of this, he’s always been loving, affectionate, emotionally invested, future-focused etc. He says he loves me, wants to be with me, and feels ashamed that things got so out of control.
I don’t know whether I’m overanalysing because I’m hurt, or whether my concerns are valid.
Has anyone dealt with something similar in a relationship? Can excessive porn use escalate into more extreme/niche content without it necessarily reflecting real-life attraction?