u/Educational-Let-2280

I have a 10 month old and a barely two year old. I have the flu. We live in a hot place. Our ac went out and it’s currently 84 degrees in my house. With the flu. With two babies. The ac repair guy came by and said he could fix it today but his friend who has the part he needs isn’t working today and is at a party so he couldn’t pick it up from him until tomorrow. I bribed his friend $400 to leave the party. Do I have an extra $400? Not really. But I am in the TRENCHES.

What’s the craziest thing you did while deep in the trenches?

We have a two year old and a 10 month old. My husband does a ton, truly, he’s not one of those husbands trying to not do their part, or get out of helping. But if I’m being completely honest, I just simply know how to do more things and 1) I’m exhausted, 2) I’m annoyed, 3) whenever I’m annoyed, he’s annoyed that I’m annoyed.

How do you handle this dynamic in your relationship? When your husband does really small inconsequential dumb shit (ie forgets to pack the stroller, puts a dish away that’s actually dirty that he “thought” was clean) do you say something? Keep it to yourself so you’re not a nag? Somewhere in between? I need some philosophies or mantras guiding how to deal with these constant little things.