My partner (M27) has a son (1.5M), and his biological mother (F27) is keeping him from us. She has a pattern of allowing contact with their son for about three months, then cutting us off completely.
The first time she cut contact was when their son was three months old, in December 2024. She completely stopped responding—no text messages, phone calls, or social media messages—and kept my partner entirely in the dark about their son.
After months of trying to reach her, my partner decided in February 2025 to file for visitation rights. They were not married when their son was born, and we live in a state where paternity must be established before he can obtain custody rights. He began the legal process, but she suddenly reached out again and gave him access to their son in early March 2025.
She allowed us to keep him for most of March and April 2025. I’m talking about weeks at a time—she would drop him off and leave. She didn’t check on him at all and wouldn’t pick him up until the middle of the following week, only to drop him off again the next day.
Around mid-April 2025, she got a boyfriend and decided to take their son back. She then cut off access again until June 2025, when a court order required her to allow visitation every other weekend.
The court order worked well until November 2025, when, on Thanksgiving, she refused to give us their son because we didn’t agree to switch times after she tried to change the schedule the day before.
We had him one last time in December 2025. Then my partner got into some legal trouble, and the court order was temporarily nullified. Because of this, they went back to court in February 2026 for a temporary order. His child’s mother was told to find a supervisor that my partner would not have to pay for to facilitate supervised visitation. However, she has refused and insists it must be done through a center to make her feel more “comfortable.”
We have contacted her multiple times about possible supervisors as well as visitation centers, but she says she is too “busy” to complete the custodial parent portion of the application. Meanwhile, she has taken multiple trips without the child with her new boyfriend.
I’m extremely frustrated with the situation. I know my partner misses his son, and I do too, as I’ve been in the child’s life since he was three months old. I feel at a loss about what to do and have no idea how to help him regain access to his child.